There's a guy at work who told me I was too weird for him to be friends with since I was sending him mixed signals about getting with him. The reason I was wavering was because he has a fiancee. I know this because last year I helped him get the engagement ring for her. The thing is she is in another country. Anyway to make the long story short, he asked me to stop texting or emailing him. He even told me he changed his cell phone number, I haven't tried calling him or emailing him and I asked him why can't just say hi at work. He told me I was too weird to be his friend and that are no hard feelings between us and I should get therapy. I don't think I'm crazy or weird, and people at work are being extra nice which bothers me. One day, I was gone from my desk to go downstairs and he was by my desk, but was kind of hiding since he was packing a box of books really fast. Today, I happened to see him flirting with another girl, he knew I saw him and looked over at me.
2007-02-21 05:00:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is doing this b/c he likes u and he wants to be with u.
2007-02-21 05:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he has told you to leave him along, then leave him alone. If you keep it up, he could sue you for sexual harrassement or stalking. Just because he was by your desk doesn't mean anything. He just happened to be standing there when he was packing the books. Perhaps you are misinterpreting his behavior, which sounds to me as though you may be in need of therapy, so that you can have someone to talk to about these issues. There is nothing wrong with needing therapy. It doesn't mean you are weird or crazy or less of a person. I'm not crazy but have been in therapy myself and it has really helped me. I recommend that you find a therapist to talk to. At the very least, accept that he has no interest in you and you will never have a relationship with him and look elsewhere for someone to date.
2007-02-21 13:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question to ask yourself is not why is he playing games...but why are you?
I am all for getting it wherever you want and I don't think its a big deal if he wants to cheat on his fiance...hey, that's his guilt trip to live with, not yours. However, since this is a workplace hookup and people seem to know all about it, it is probably best that you drop this. I think that he is setting you up to make you look like an idiot. It's better to cut this off now than look dumb and possibly have your job jeopardized.
Don't approach him if you don't have to. Don't give him a reason to call you wierd. Just do your work and let him be an ***. That will bite him back in the long run.
2007-02-21 13:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BeBe, you are so much better then this. You have to admit to yourself, "I messed up". In every social situation where real friendship is not involved, some people want to get the "upper hand". I feel sorry for the fiancee, but, you have got to stop second guessing yourself and "reading" things into random events. That can happen to anyone , but, don't let that happen to you. To me he is a bit of a "jerk". Can you imagine being the fly on the wall when he gave her the ring, " Yea babe, I hope you like it. I put a lot of thought into it. Thought of only you when I decided". He's the weird one! Now he gets to parade himself around like," yea I'm hot, I'm engaged, other girls still want me". He played a "head game" on you. Have you ever heard of the song, "Whatever!" That should be your mantra every time you see him or his name comes up . This is your United States of "Whatever!" P.S. He ain't your friend, never was. Everyone that matters is on your side. OK? P.P.S. I give them 18 months, 2 years tops.
2007-02-21 13:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being judgemental is never looked at positively, but I have this suspicion that the REAL reason he finds you weird, is because he WANTED to hook up with you (even though he has a fiancee) and you wouldn't.
That would also explain why he's flirting with another girl in the office, who ALSO isn't his fiance.
2007-02-21 13:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by ltygress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. He is playing games with you because he can. Don't let what he does carry so much weight. He is not importand and you need to care a lot less about what he thinks. He is having fun at your expense and not thinking about how it effects you. Show him you can live with or with out him. He will eventually leave you alone or he will come running if he wants to be with you. I hope you don't get serious about a guy like this.
2007-02-21 13:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think he wants to get rid of u for whatever reason. He sounds like a jerk!!! Move on... especially since he already has a girl! He would do the same to u!!!
2007-02-21 13:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mood swings and very childish this one is!
He fancies the pants off you, but does not like it cos ur not chasing after him so his going in one of his boysih moods, his playing hard to get, his doing all of this to get at you. pretty childish in a way cos his the weird one.
if i was you i would enjoy him going on the way he is, let him carry oin being childish, its killing him cos ur not reacting, i would sit back and have a good laugh, his going the wrong way about it. i would not think of going out with him neither as if this is the way he goes on now, imagine what he will go on like when you do get with him, he sounds like an insecure spoilt little boy!
what a loser
2007-02-21 13:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by ice_castles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have been sending signals that you fancy him, and he has a fiancee then it is quite right for him to tell you not to contact him.
He's not playing games.
He's trying to avoid getting stalked or lusted after by you.
2007-02-21 13:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by lawomicron 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i feel that a boy is playing with u than that mean that he don't like u no-more cause if u and him like each other than he stop liking u than that mean he founda new girlfriend
2007-02-21 13:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by Reanna l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋