i cant wait to call my mom and tell her something that has happened to me that day. i asked others and they said they do that same thing. does that ever go away ? what do you believe?
2007-02-21 04:59:26 · 15 answers · asked by mala 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I lost my father in 1993, my sister in 1994 and then my mom in 1995. I still after all this time say things like "Heather(my sis) would love this!" or start to write out cards for them before their bdays and Christmas. It takes a while to get over it. But it's ok, it means they are still so close in your heart and soul and so embedded in your mind that they are with you always. You love them, you miss them and you always will. I'm sorry for your loss, I know it's very difficult. Keep them with you always in your heart and mind.
Take Care,
Tori
2007-02-21 05:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all: my condolences. My father passed away eight years ago and my mother died last year. I do still have the urge to tell them if something important happened. Especially since my mother died. So I decided to do just that. If something important happens, like I passed an exam, I tell her in my head. It's not the same thing maybe, but it does help. I don't think those moments you're talking about will ever completely go away, but I don't think that's a bad thing. I somehow see it as part of the unbreakable bond I have with my parents. It's a bond that can not be broken by death and I feel good about it.
2007-02-21 13:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom three years ago right after Christmas and My dad right after thanksgiving this last year. It is always going to leave a huge empty spot in your heart. There are times like when my daughter got married a couple of months ago that i just wanted my mom there. And how many times I would like to hear her voice on the other end of the phone. Do not ever be afraid to talk about how much you miss them and how many good and bad memories you have. In time it gets easier but the loss will never completely dissapear. Grief takes different amounts of time for different people. Find someone to confide in and talk cry or laugh whatever you need to do. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers
2007-02-21 14:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by clhays123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how terrible that must be. I have never experienced loss like yours but when one of my best friends died it too almost 5 years before things really set in. I wish you the best. You can still tell your mom about the things that happen to you. I believe that the people that are close to us stay with us for a long time. I bet she's listening...
You can always talk to your parents and ask them to visit you in a dream. I have had several dream visitations from loved one that have passed. There are also a great deal of book on this subject with exercises of communicating through dreaming.
2007-02-21 13:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by emce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby this will never go away. It's just apart of the way your dealing with your loss and its in no way a bad thing. This is actually a very healthy way of dealing with it. Just know that everything happens for a reason and from their passing, i bet you have become one strong girl, and your parents are looking down on you and very proud. Just know that when those exciting things happen in your day that would make you want to call and tell them about it, they were their sharing in your excitement.
2007-02-21 13:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live across the street from 3 young boys who lost BOTH parents in a car accident 9 years ago. They hate living with their uncle & his wife. They go thru what you have described EVERY day since their death. I feel for all who've lost their parents! I think about it a lot now that my parents are feeling their age. I don't think that feeling ever goes away. (unless you weren't close to them) So sorry for your loss!
2007-02-21 13:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had some almost spooky experiences of SENSING that my dad was in the next room or at the other side of the pool helping me do my laps. They will always be with you inside your heart. I don't worry anymore if it is true or not or about grieving. I let the experience pass through my soul with joy. You can too. Bless you honey, I am sorry for your loss but YES they are still there WITH you.
2007-02-21 13:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sure it does.. but you need to find others to call and tell them so it replaces the other phone call that you would have made.
When there is a hole in your heart you need to fill it with good things and people it won't replace but it gives you another way of expressing the joy you feel with someone else.
If you dont' fill that hole yourself it will fill with depression and sadness on its own.. you have to take charge right away.
2007-02-21 13:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you lost you parents. Im sure it will like when i lost my dads parents and plus my mom's mom, it hurt but I promise it will be ok and Im not saying you'll forget about your parents, but maybe not think about all the time. give it a while.
2007-02-21 13:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by bearcatz_07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it never goes away. I lost my husband and I was running late from shopping.....the kids were in the car and I said I better call dad and tell him I am running late......That just stared at me.
It just get easier.
2007-02-21 13:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋