This guy came over to hang out and before he left i ended up giving it to him. Now all of his friends know. I know that i shouldn't have gave it to him that fast but i was in the mood and i keep beating myself up over it!!!
2007-02-21 04:58:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your screen name is BLONDESLUT. Go figure.
2007-02-21 05:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily "wrong", but don't expect anything serious to come of this. He will wonder how many times this has happened in the past. From this point on, he'll probably view you as a girl "to have fun with." If you catch my drift.
He could be different than most, and maybe the time was just right for both of you and you'll be able to have a relationship. But that chance is slim. Just ask yourself -how often have you done this before, and maybe you'll know the answer to your own question.
Don't beat yourself up, just learn from your actions.
2007-02-21 05:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by himay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you kind of lost control! What do the two of you have to look forward to now?! Next time make him wait and wonder what it would be like instead of removing all doubt the first night. It's the same as putting on more clothing to make them imagine what's under there. The imagination can be more erotic than the actual event. Hold out longer next time, the chase is half the fun! As far as all his friends knowing, he's a jerk for telling them, bragging isn't appealing when anyone does it, especially over something so private. Good Luck! =)
2007-02-21 05:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong! How well do you know this guy? Does he beat women? How many STD's does he have? How many kids does he have from previous relationships? Is he a good provider? (this is going to be important because every time you have sex with someone, you run the risk of having a pregnancy and a baby...and it's not about you, it's about the life you could potentially create.)
Not only that, you look like a cheap thrill. Are you? Or are you actually worth something? What is wrong with our society that makes young women think that "saving themselves" is strange and bad? It's not. What is wrong with having monogomous sex in a committed relationship with a man to whom you are married, and having children?
Besides, having multiple partners exponentially raises your risk of things like cervical cancer.
Please be more responsible.
2007-02-21 05:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't beat yourself up over it. if it was a mistake then move on. A lot of people do this, did you know him well enough to sleep with him? some people have excellent chemistry, and spark right away. There a lot of things you need to consider the main one is Did you use protection? I don't know why guys go and tell their friends that's retarded. Sleeping with someone on the first date/night doesn't make you a slut. Don't beat yourself up for this you are too good for that. take care and don't worry about it.
2007-02-21 05:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um in my very own opinion yes, i just believe that way, um if it works out for you the way you wanted then thats on you and you got what you wanted but becareful in allowing thing like that. You might end up with a reputaion, gossip, others upset with you, others looking down at you, a guy who direspected you, a guy that only wants you for that and not sincere, a broken heart and so on, and sometimes what you do now might haunt you later and might be done to you without real love or anything else being true. Everything has consequeces to it. every single decision. If you didn't mean it turn from those ways and really try your best in not doing it again.
If you really care for the guy make sure he care for you and not just for that.
If you did it for fun or to get back at someone or a situation be very careful. Sometimes we enjoy things for the moment and regret it for life.
2007-02-21 05:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by muneca7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you wanted to do and most people can't even do that after the 3rd or 5th date. Don't worry about what other people say about it as long as you felt comfortable doing it with him then that is your business and no one elses. I had sex with someone the first night we hung out and we have been together for 5 yrs going on 6. So things can happen or come out of the situation you just have to be dealing with someone mature enough to handle it.
2007-02-21 05:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be annoyed that all of his friends know but that proves that he thought you were 'hot'. It seems ashame that you've slept with him already as you will have nothing to look forward to but we all make mistakes. Perhaps his friends are just being 'boys' and trying to annoy you? Try not to worry about having slept with him as it's too late to go back. Maybe you could talk to him and tell him how you feel but don't beat yourself up about it! Don't regret anything that makes you smile! Take care. x
2007-02-21 05:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person you have to answer to is yourself and any diety you ascribe to. If you are in the middle of small town america then it might be a bit much. In the middle of LA, most people will wonder why it took you so long. Go for it.
2007-02-21 05:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I keep telling my b/f sister who is 34 this, if you keep doing that you will never be in a meaningful relationship, keep sex out of it till you know where the relationship is going... then she sits there and cries, and says oh everybody is using me....no you let them use you that way... i dont know how old you are but you need to have more respect for yourself.... good luck
2007-02-21 05:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very wrong. And if he told his friends he is a louse and a loser. Have some self respect. You are giving away your most precious possession--your body. Use your head instead of your private parts.
2007-02-21 05:02:52 · answer #11 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋