2007-02-21 04:57:29 · 31 answers · asked by Jillian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you feel like you should go, then go and just leave Mom alone. She's probably got other things on her mind anyway. If you don't want to go, you aren't obliged. You can pay your respects in your own way.
2007-02-21 05:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My suggestion would be to go to the wake, but quietly stay in the back of the room, not going up to the casket to pay your respects trying to keep a low profile. Then leave in a few minutes indicating to someone that you were there and that they would tell your ex girlfriend. You could also just drop by the funeral mass for a few minutes and leave.
Another suggestion and I think this would be the best is to send flowers and then make a followup phone call to your ex girlfriend extending your condolences. You don't want to upset your ex's mother in a time like this.
2007-02-21 05:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your habit suitable? Or do you recommend hers? Jealousy isn't incredibly "suitable" even once you have reason for it through fact is a depraved emotion which could have dire outcomes (look what occurred with Shakespeare's Othello!). this is, despite the fact that, comprehensible. Is there the rest happening (or no longer) on your courting with this lady which might make you doubt her? Are the two one in all you open and trouble-free with one yet another? Do you believe her? i will no longer be able to think of using a funeral for a social flow to, just to get closer co-workers from 2 a protracted time in the past. for sure the deceased as quickly as meant some thing on your lady chum and he or she desires to "pay her respects". Are you afraid she will use this flow to as a fashion of hooking up with an previous date? communicate together with her frivolously. factor sparkling tell her you sense a tinge of jealousy, as irrational because it ought to look. this could be the stepping off place for a sparkling, deeper point on your courting.
2016-10-16 04:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to go, I would go before visting hours. For example if vistation was from 2-4 go around 1:45 pay your respects and leave a card for your girlfriend. My cousin was killed in a horrible car wreck and this is what her ex boyfriend did since they werent on such good of terms. I thought it was very respectable and classy.
2007-02-21 05:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by KOOSE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go to support your ex-girlfriend. You don't have to stay long, but just let her know you are there and thinking of her during this sad time. Might not hurt to express some sympathy to mom as well, send a nice flower arrangement and card.
2007-02-21 05:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going to a funeral is for support for the family, usually not for the dead. If your X doesn't have a problem with it go. If it will cause a major hurt to the mother, dont. She probably doesn't need anymore stress.
2007-02-21 05:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by herekittykitty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you must pay your respects, then go. A funeral is a place to show your love and respect, I don not think that would be a forum for her mother to air her grievances about you.
2007-02-21 05:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask myself why I needed this closeur? thats what funerals are for closeur. In your case if you feel you need to say good bye visit her at the cemetary after the fact. Why make the parents or mother upset your there. I would not go.
2007-02-21 05:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by gregory_usa83 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah just show respect to the deceased girl and try to get close to the mother. This is the time where she is most vulnerable to attack.You need to be kind hearted say stuff like i know that we havent been close but this is not the time to be thinking of me think of(dead girl name). this ias a crucial time to get in and stay in
2007-02-21 05:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by candymankilla590 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were friends you should go, but sit in the back. Have you asked your ex what she thinks of it? I remember that when my father was cremated, one of my ex boyfriends unexpectedly showed up and I was really very happy about that.
2007-02-21 05:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋