i'm a young teacher at the university and one day i was driving towards my parking lot and all of a sudden a woman came out of nowhere and driving really fast she almost hit me and never looked when she came out the parking lot she started to swear on me and of course i answered her. the next day she came to my office saying that she is a dean and she wanted me to apologize....(she was driving a big jeep) and for her figures wants me to apologize i don't want to please tell em how to escape honourably
2007-02-21 04:52:43 · 6 answers · asked by diana 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Good manners dictates that one should not respond in kind to a person's poor manners. Yes, you were shocked with the near accident and upset when she started swearing at you but she must believe it was you who was at fault and not she. You might consider apologizing for your part in the altercation to keep the peace and to put an unpleasant incident aside. You might say "I'm sorry I swore at you - but I was reacting to your scaring me with the near accident and then swearing at me! Let's both promise not to swear at each other in future and be more careful in the parking lot." (Chances are she'll eventually have an accident if this is how she drives all the time - hopefully it won't be with you! Watch out for her.)
2007-02-21 06:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by Santal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that you feel the same way, i.e., an apology is in order. IF nothing else, suggest you both reach a compromise and decide you were both to blame.
She cannot use her position to extract an apology from you if you do not agree with her. If she takes any action via memo, verbal or adds anything to your record, she could lay herself open to a suit for wrongful actions against you.
Whatever the outcome, try to get anything in writing.
2007-02-21 13:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she feels you were in the wrong and see if she makes any sense; if you still don't think you were wrong tell her that's why you won't apologize. You might check the vehicle penal code first as to who has the rightofway so you can cite it to her.
2007-02-21 13:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a teacher, huh? You know that expression "physician heal thyself?" Well? Can you interpolate from that?
2007-02-21 12:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her rationally what you feel happened and maybe she will see the light and your side.
2007-02-21 13:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by wyntur1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never apologized. But you should do it..... i think... sorry not very good at these things.
2007-02-21 13:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Patrik S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋