bullying problem?

Question

i have told my headteacher about me being bullyd and he said that he would have a word with the bullys but today they were bullying me again on the bus and i herd them saying that if someone rats them out about the other thing they did to me then they will blame it on one of the gypos on this bus! i told a teacher about 4 weeks ago now about this situation they are on a bout! this realy makes me angry as in my school planner it says that this school takes seriouse action to bullying and this thing these lads did on the bus realy was seriouse bullying it was physical bullying! what should i do? i told my mom but she said theres nothing she can do! its realy getting me down and i have lost all my closest friends because of this! i have been noticing a weight loss and deppression! i am getting scared and running out of ideas to help me! please help x

Answer 1

it sounds to me like you are in elementary school or middle school. this is the age that i was bullied in. it sucked so much and i thought there was nothing i could do about it. i was fed up with getting teased and i was tired of being pushed around. but then i found a great book on my sister's book shelf.

it's called "Bullies are a Pain in the Brain" by Trevor Romain. It was fantastic. it talked about all the kinds of bullies, how to recognize a bully or if YOU were even a bully. i know that you aren't, but the activity on that helped me figure out my bully. it also talked about ways to stand up for yourself and fight back. (i don't mean "fight" as in give you bully a black eye) it also talked about why bullies do what they do. but rather than get into the details of what it said, i suggest just checking out a copy from the library or buying one. it helped me out a lot.

so, what did i do to deal? i joined a karate studio. i originally joined so i could learn to "kick some bully butt". however, i learned a lot more from karate.
1) i gained self-CONFIDENCE, which is the first step to beating a bully. if you act afraid, bullies will just feed off your low self-esteem. once you act like you are emotionally tough, they will leave you alone.
2) i learned self-CONTROL. if you just go beating up every guy who gets in your face, you will end up losing a lot more friends. the great thing about karate is that it taught me to control my anger and taught me how to use calmness to my advantage. it taught me how to find the power within my body.
3) i learned self-DEFENSE. i learned how to protect myself if anyone physically tried to hurt me. i learned how you protect myself in situations like a headlock, if someone grabs my arm, or a bear hug, or if someone tried to choke me. and the best part is, i learned this at the FIRST LEVEL!!! you don't have to be a black belt to protect yourself.

good luck! bullies really are a pain in the brain.

Answer 2

Hi there,

I hear you!!! I was bullied for my early years at school, unfortuantly i reacted the wrong way by fighting, however they never gave me anymore grief. I suggest you go to the headteacher and tell them that the bullying policy is unacceptable and that something needs to be done, say that they promote bullying, basically stern words that they don't want to hear and it will become a police matter if it isn't sorted out in two week. ring the schools local authoriy and tell them whats going on and say you will refuse to come to school. it will get sorted this way. I also said to them screaming that my school promnoted bullying and all they cared about was tghe clever ones, and there looks were of horrified, saying that i was 6,3 and 16 stone at them time, soquite a big kid. good luck and keep smiling - you will prevail.

the easy easy approach dosen't work anymore in society, you've got to give the impresssion and feel that you mean buisness.

Mention problems to your parents too.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear about your bullying problem, this isn't acceptable and something needs to be done.

There is loads of advice on dealing with bullying here:http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/bullyingSchool.php

I think the best thing you can do is to book an appointment with the headmaster, and ask to see the policy on bullying, and ask what he is planning on doing about your bullying. Make notes while you are talking to him, and ask him to sign them afterwards. If you aren't happy with the steps he decides to take, ask him to set up a meeting with someone from the LEA.

Remember to keep a detailed journal with dates and times. You need to write down who does or says what.

Hope this helps xx

Answer 4

Get to know your bulliers very very well. Yes this may work. Go and visit them and thier family sometime.

I think people not knowing you well may make it easier for them. I'm not giving them any excuss. It is very wrong. But do you think they want thier parents to know that their little precious sons are bullying someone...nope.

Go for a casual visit and discuss the problem with thier parents and maybe them also.

If making the bullying "public" doesn't work:


-The school should be protecting you and your right to education. Tell the (head) teacher that it hasn't helped.
-Bullying on the bus and streets is a also a matter for the police.

Answer 5

You must not let yourself be submissive to the bullies. In was young days I was 'Nerdus Maximus'. There are many non-violent reliatory efforts I have engaged in against my bullies. Amongst them included mailing them packages filled with poo. Before the caller id era, I ordered pizzas and other food deliveries to their houses. I crank called them persistently as well.

Above all else, know this: success is the greatest revenge. 10 years from now those f'ers will be working deadbeat jobs, so don't kill yourself emotionally over them. Find something you like to do in life and become good at it. It's the best distraction from silly nonsense like bullies.

Answer 6

Iagree, you need to speak with the headmaster about the problem immediately. If no action is taken, then I would find a lawyer. There are laws against bullying in schools and if the school refusing to protect you, then they are liable.
I would document everything that you can remember--incidents, names, the name of the teacher you talked to and the date (if you can remember) and what action was or was not taken.
Most importantly, PROTECT YOURSELF. If that means changing schools, then do it.
Oh, and your mom is pretty crappy to not help. If it were my daughter, I would be on that bus kicking some serious adolescent butt. You maybe need to let her know that this is *serious* and that you need her to help you. Its her duty as your mom to protect you!

Answer 7

i'm sorry to hear you are being bullied, if your teacher isn't doing anything to help you need to see the principal as this is not acceptable. ask to see the policy the school have about bullies, and demand action, there are help lines out there that can help you talk through your situation you don't have to go through this alone. don't let them get you down then they have won, the best revenge to have is to be happy and have a good life.

Answer 8

I'm really sorry to hear about whats happening to you....

Consider getting some professional advice from ChildLine http://www.childline.org.uk/Bullying.asp (Child Line bully advice)
or Connexions. http://www.connexions-direct.com/index.cfm?pid=147 (Connexions Direct bullying advice), also have a look at where you local one is, and make an appointment to speak to a counsellor there...

Consider speaking to your headteacher again... explain how important it is that he gets this sorted out immediately... say that it is effecting your health, confidence, studyings..

Hope everything works out ok soon...

Answer 9

Be upfront with the headteacher and demand immediate action. If they still do nothing you can contact the school's governors about your situation who will force the school to do something about it.

If that doesn't work, go and appeal to the council personally. But if bureacracy is as bad as I think it is, the only thing left is to move school. Sorry.

Hope this helps and good luck

Answer 10

Hello

I am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time.

Have a look at www.bullying.co.uk

If you still need advice after reading their page you can email them at

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I am sure they will support you with getting the school to listen to you and take your concerns seriously

Really hope that helps.