I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and for quite a while (say more than 6 months) I have felt that I'm making all the effort. Anyway, this half term I've been getting really irritated with my boyfriend for reasons which he thinks are silly and pathetic.
Some examples:
1: I had stayed at his house one night and was to meet him later in the day, so I thought it made sense to stay at his house that day since I was already there - but my boyfriend called his friend in front of me, even though he knew I wasn't impressed with it, and asked his friend to come round so I had to leave.
2: He had all his friends round one night and ignored his house phone calls from me and when I got through to him on his friends mobile phone he told me it was too noisy (it didn't sound noisy).
3. He was supposed to be going to the cinema with me but then said he wanted to go with his friends but I hate being the only girl, so he went with them instead of me.
Am i being really picky?
2007-02-21 04:35:07 · 7 answers · asked by katkitten135 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what you really do. Everyone speaks of actions and such. Make some time, just you and him, away from everyone. You both need to talk this out, you have your doubts and he has his way of doing things without communicating. You both need to drop all you have between you and put the real deal on the table. You know you're not always going to be around him like a chaperone, and he needs to be do things on his own as well, so it seems. Whatever the case may be, talk it out, see if there are any solutions. Be blunt and if those solutions won't solve anything call it a draw. If they work then go for it. But know that it's a two way street when you are in a relationship, and if neither will give, then it won't work.
2007-02-21 05:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by realwrekonizereal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be conscious to the sensible: not at all call for that your better 0.5 chosen between you and their acquaintances. you'll lose. imagine about it - you're searching for for hassle. you're debating even if to get disillusioned at someone because of what he thinks his reaction will be to a topic you're not to any extent further even in. He did not say the idea of going away with you repulsed him. Are you no longer one among those acquaintances that are so significant to be with? C'mon what's your genuine problem with him? do you sense harm by his different relationships? do you no longer have many others of your own? are you jealous of his acquaintances or of him for having acquaintances? or maybe it has in simple terms hit you that both of you lack common priorities/aims? As for compatability: even had he said the idea of going away jointly repulsed him; in effortless words you could decide if it really is a deal breaker for you. bear in thoughts notwithstanding that New year's is a time for giant events and reunions, and there is a few thing to be favourite about a guy who receives nostalgic over acquaintances and kin on the vacation trips.
2016-12-04 11:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there, you will eventually prevail in this tug of war.
He has fun with with buddies, but it's a different kind of fun.
If youre doing it right, the fun he has with you is much better.
My cousin had the same problem, shes now married and the knucklehead friends are gone.
2007-02-21 04:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Indiana Jones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try telling him ho you feel. If he don't listen-do this. Make one day to just meet him-get romantic and freaky-wear sexy lingerie-and PUT YOUR INNER SEX VIXEN ON HIM! Then, he leaves, you don't call him for a whole week. Meanwhile, you do your own thing. make like if he calls You you're too busy talking to a handsome new neighbor. He'll get the message....
2007-02-21 04:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels like he's on lockdown..but if its not that and if he REALLY doesnt appreciate u and hang out with his friends alot more than u...then do the same back...hang out with the gurls alot more often and ignore his calls..and try to show him that ur tryin to avoiding him..like wats he's doing to u...do it until he feels the same way u do...and if it bothered him as much as it bothered u..spending time with the homies more ....he'll later on want to talk to u about it..and u guys should talk about ..spending time with each other and spending time with ur friends..and if it really didnt turn out like that and he really doesnt care wat u do maybe u dont really matter to him...FIND other things to do then wait around n be bothered by wants he's doing to u ...KEEP UR SELF OCCUPPIED..
2007-02-21 04:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant be with him 24 hours a day.you got to give him room to breath. my son girlfriend thinks she has to be with him all the time. it gets on my nerves.he has to have a life to. so try to be less controllying. he need time with freinds to like you do.
2007-02-21 04:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by bay bay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No darling. Just tell him this:
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2007-02-21 05:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋