8 months ago I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. Then still now I've think about him and worry about him. I sometimes think that if i did the right thing. I don't know. It confused me so much. He doesn't know what he want either and sometimes I would thhat wy bother. He is confused and doesn't know what he want. I just want to move on you know, but sometimes my head just telling me that what I did is not right, but my heart said is the right thing to do. Please help me! :(
2007-02-21 04:28:23 · 10 answers · asked by Mapahapal Kipitapa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will never stop caring about someone you were so close to, so don't worry about that bit! It always takes a while to get over someone, but I think most people find that once they find somebody new, they tend not to think about their ex so much. If you've not had a relationship since, why don't you try going out and meeting a nice guy and maybe go on a date? You never know that certain guy could be ur mr right!
You could just talk to your ex on the otherhand. Have a really in depth conversation about it and find out what you both want and you can't say you don't know!
I guess it all really depends on how the relationship was before and what you broke up for.
It just seems unfair if you are both stringing each other along because you don't know what to do.
One of you needs to make a move - and fast.
2007-02-21 04:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by katkitten135 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, listen to your gut. This exists somewhere between your head and your heart.
Go to a place when you feel calm and happy and safe, and just sit there for awhile, not doing anything, just being at peace. Once you feel calm, then ask yourself if you did the right thing - if you feel guilty or ashamed, then you did something wrong; if you feel sad but firm, then you know you did the right thing.
Sometimes the answer isn't a clear right or wrong, it can be a complicated weave of good and bad. But deep down you know which way the scale falls.
2007-02-21 12:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you break up with someone, it doesn't mean you still don't care about them. Remember that your heart can be very deceitful, only remembering the good parts. Use your head to really think things through. Why did you break up and has anything changed? You will be right back where you were - unhappy. I think it is time to quit dwelling on the past and open yourself up to a new, better relationship.
2007-02-21 12:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Joan H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys broke up a long time ago. Him still not knowing what he wants is not a good thing. You both will keep dating on and off if you decide to take him back and that could go on forever. Find someone who knows exactly what he wants.
2007-02-21 12:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by great_business2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you don't know what you want, then you often end up making a mistake. For every right choice, there are a zillion wrong choices. And if you don't know what you want, then odds are pretty good that you will make a wrong choice.
And if you end up in a relationship with a man who doesn't know what he wants, then he may some day decide that his relationship with you is a mistake and leave you.
If you want to avoid making a mistake in your life and you want to have a secure relationship with a man, then you need to think about and decide what it is that you want in a man and in your relationship with him. And then you need to look for and find such a man.
And you have to make sure that your man knows what he wants and knows that he wants you, before you get seriously involved with him.
2007-02-21 12:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know sometimes, the gut feeling is wat we have to go by. If you guys are meant to be it will all work itself out. Aparently at this time, you are both confused and the best thing to do is let it work itself out. Don;t make any sudden moves to be back with him until you measure all the angles of why you guys ae not together anymore. Listen to your heart and it can never steer you wrong.
2007-02-21 12:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the reasons you broke up for, then see if they still persist or not and if you can live with it even if they don't change or not, then decide to move on or give it another shot with him. Good Luck!
2007-02-21 12:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by M. Shaaban 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be fate that meant you guys were for each other. but first think about why you broke up with him and see what he has that you like
2007-02-21 12:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Peachy Keen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on I say.
2007-02-21 16:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably best that you move on your hung up on him in and unhealthy way so i say move on
2007-02-21 12:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by mommyofanangel06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋