usualy my daughter is ajoy to be with but tantrums aare getting out of hand and me and mum is strugling to cope with all this trouble every morning before nursery
2007-02-21 04:24:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
don't let her eat breakfast or watch tv until she is dressed.
2007-02-21 04:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my three year old we have a little race to see how quickly he can get dressed. Sometimes i get a t-shirt out of his drawer and he's like i don't wanna wear that but when i say see how quickly you can get into it for mummy he sees it as a game and this distracts him from what he was moaning about in the first place. If he still carries on then i get down to his level and with a strong voice he is told that this is what he is wearing and that i won't tolerate his behaviour. I only have to look at him sometimes and he knows i mean business. I also have a naughty corner that he is sat in facing the wall until he apologises. Its not very fun staring at a bedroom wall
2007-02-21 16:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3yr old throws a fit if I dont let her dress herself. So give that a try. Have a talk with him before he goes to bed at night. Have him try to choose what he is going to wear the next day. Lay that out each night on his bed and tell him he can dress himself in the morning like a big boy. HOpefully that will help.
He is either acting out because he doesnt want to go to Nursery, and you might want to talk with the teachers to see how he is acting there and if they have any suggestions that might help. Or he is trying to stir up his independence for dressing himself and not wanting Mummy to do it. Either way, something has got to give.
Good luck.
2007-02-21 13:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell the 4 year old in plain easy to understand language that she will no longer tolerate the tantrums and will no longer fight them. If she chooses not to dress, she will go as is and have to stay that way the entire day. You will be amazed that doing this even once will change that child's mind quickly and permanently. I doubt you'll ever leave the house before the child decides to get dressed.
2007-02-21 12:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the tantrums and make it a game or a race to get dressed quickly. Perhaps you could have a reward at the end of the week if she dresses herself every day - stickers will work wonders at that age.
2007-02-21 12:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Roxy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went through the same stage. I am in a rush in a morning and she didnt want to get dressed so .... I took her to nursery in her PJ's and asked them to change her later. She only did it once as they other kids laughed at her. she now gets dressed like an angel!!
2007-02-22 12:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by Dingle-Dongle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there i had the same with my 3 year old boy especially when he knew i was in a hurry, he has a favourite toy a little monkey and little monkey helps me dress him every morning which he thinks is great fun so i have not half the problem i used to with him now although there are the odd days when this doesnt work it does help!! good luck
2007-02-22 12:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by psha1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it into a game while you are getting dressed and see who can get dressed first and praise her when she puts an item of clothing on she is doing it for purpose now cause she knows it gets to you show her that you dont care and do not respond to the tantrums
2007-02-25 12:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by sha23z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree with Sarah. I used to use this one when mine was small. "OK then, you stay her on your own because I've got to go now, Bye". If need be pretend to be going out the door. I also used to actually get up earlier than normal to deal with any tantrums. It's tough, but honestly, it doesn't last forever, just feels like it.
2007-02-21 13:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i took care of my four year old grandson last year it was a nightmare getting him dressed. every morning it was the same i became worn out at the racing games who was the fastest so i made a reward chart put down what issues needed sorting out and hey it worked. with in a week i had him eaten out of my hand
2007-02-25 06:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bribery worked for me. I'd stand in front of her eating her favourite yogurt, keeping a second one with me. Get dressed or I'll eat both.
It worked for a while and she got fed up not getting dressed when a young girl same age moved in next door and would come round to play.
2007-02-21 13:07:00 · answer #11 · answered by charterman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋