If I was going to tell you the whole story then you would be reading this for ages, so to cut a long story short, my boyfriend has no respect for me what so ever and not only that but he never touches me anymore and I feel stupid and ugly because of his put downs. I have decided to move out but I don't know if I should keep our relationship and tell him to move back in with his parents or to move out and start off fresh? And how would I tell him?
2007-02-21 04:21:00 · 13 answers · asked by cherri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are moving out due to his behavior - do not, by any means stay in a relationship with him. You would only be staying with him due to fear of being alone. I know it is scary, but that will fade, and it will fade quickly once you're out. I just went through this myself! Anyway, if you feel love for him and you still see some future for the two of you, try to end things gently and amicably and maybe he'll realize down the road that he was a jackass. Let him show you that he's changed. This may take weeks, months or years.
However, I'm willing to bet that after a few weeks or months, you won't want anything to do with him anyway. You deserve to be w/ someone who makes you feel smart and beautiful! We all do.
2007-02-21 04:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by himay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years. It becomes such a habit then an obsession that you cannot stand and you live in a miserable world created by the both of you. If you can get out, please get out now before it does become too late. Move out and end it. It may not seem that bad to you now, but I assure you it only gets worse. We say that we can fix things and make them change BUT in all actuality, all we do is make it worse. Like you say the whole story is too long so is mine and so is the reason I tell you to get out and move on. You will save yourself years of miserable things. It also involves your whole life which is your family. When you suffer, they suffer. There are a lot of men out there that will treat you right and that you can be compatible with. It may not seem like it now but I assure there is. I am not trying to tell you what to do, just giving you a wise opinion.
May the good spirits be with you to make you strong and wise in making the right choice now and always,
Michelle
2007-02-21 04:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Irish Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the relationship was over a long time ago. He is just waiting you out to see how far he can push you before you get fed up and leave. Why don't you tell him you are not going to live with disrespect and ask HIM to leave? He sounds like a real loser. I am sorry you believed him to the point that you felt stupid and ugly when it is his heart that is really ugly! I hope you find a nice guy who loves and respects you.
2007-02-21 04:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Joan H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely kick him to the curb!! Move on and start fresh! Never settle for someone that does not respect and love everything about you!! There is plenty of respectable guys out there that will love you and never make you feel unappreciated!! Go get em girl!! your man should never put you down...thats not a real man! Why are you still with him?? Get out!
2007-02-21 04:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who makes someone feel like less of a person should be cut off. I would leave. Who cares what he thinks. If he realizes he is losing something good then he will do something about it. If not then you are better off. There is someone out there who will listen to you, touch you. care for you. But it doesn't sound like you are with him now,. Do what makes you happy.
2007-02-21 04:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the ties. Move out, change your number, and start completely fresh. Don't backslide, because this guy is an abuser and deserves no happiness until he can change that.
2007-02-21 04:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Chris R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the short story there seems no reason to stay with this guy. To tell him, jut be blunt and don't give mixed signals.
If the story is more complex, you can email with additional details and I'll try to help.
2007-02-21 04:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what to tell you, but apparently this guy is a loser. He cant really love you or care about if he has no respect for you. You deserve better that. Maybe he needs help.
2007-02-21 04:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start fresh, get a new place. Tell him you deserve someone who will love you and treat you with respect.
2007-02-21 04:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by smooch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you possibly want a man like that? work on your self esteem and get with a man that will love and care about you. you let someone treat you like **** once they always will bottom line
2007-02-21 04:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋