i need some serious answers on this one please...?

Question

i think my son's father i trying to get back together with me but i moved on and i have a bf who's doesnt want me talking to my son's father.he gets jealous whenever i talk to him,and he's doing some stuff that i dont like at all for example i went to trinidad for two weeks when i came back all of my email address password are different i cant even log into my own email,and for the record am 20yrs and my bf is 24yrs.he's jus too insecure and he admits that,and he's always telling me that he cheated on me and a lil while after he says that he was jus joking.tell me what would u have done/my son's father is 20yrs.please help i really confused

Answer 1

You DEFINITELY need to get away from both these men. Take your son and go wherever you can, to family or friends. This is VERY serious, it sounds as if domestic violence could/or is going on here. Abuse does not always come in the form of physical attacks. You are being CONTROLLED by your present boyfriend. If you stay in this situation, it could very well escalate into a more dangerous, life threatening situation. Think about the welfare of your son, this environment is NOT, a safe, or healthy one for either of you. Do you want to be under the control of a man who is jealous, deceitful, and possibly a threat to you or your son. Go to a shelter if you have no other options. I am an advocate for domestic violence victims, as soon as I read your Question, the signs are very obvious, that you do need to LEAVE.Please trust me on this???

Answer 2

Hello, I may be able to help in this area, my best friends have always been girls so i have always had to give them advice in relationships. Im a straight guy though, no worries. Guys get jellous because they dont want to lose something good that they have, sometimes we are over jellous and it works in reverse. He knows that your babies father is trying to talk to you again and he knows that you two have had a past, that is probally the reason why he is being over jellous with you on that topic. But that isnt any excuse for how he is acting. This could just be a precurser to whats to come in life. Your babies father and you will always have some sort of relationship even though you may not be "together" you two share a joy in life, your child. There will always be contact there and there is nothing that anyone can do about that. Unless you totaly cut your babies father off from your kid together, which isnt nice at all. Any questions, just e-mail me, maybe i can help more.

Answer 3

He's too jealous, you'll never be fully happy with him because he can't change who he is. If you love him enough, then you'll stick with him and try to be understanding and 'be kinda controlled' by him.
I was very jealous at 18, now I'm 24 and I don't act like an insecure baby anymore because I've had experience.

The reason why he changed your password is I'm sure you were getting email from your kid's father and any other guy, even girls he thinks could lead you 'astray'.
If he'll go to that extent, I think it's just too far and it would be better for you in the long run to just drop his ***.

Answer 4

Okay, girl. Here's the deal. Your current bf is showing early signs of possessiveness, which WILL grow into abusiveness, that's how it starts. From the way I see it, he will probably begin to verbally abuse you or deny you your freedom. He isn't displaying signs of love and affection. You should review your relationship and ask yourself if you see a future with him. Be honest with yourself. Do you want to be with someone who changes your e-mail passwords? Pretty soon he'll be deleting friends' and families' numbers from your phone. Get away from him. As for the father of your child, there's a reason why he's an ex! Revisit that reason and ask yourself if you can be with him again and what will have changed. Demand nothing but the best from your personal relationships with guy or they will manipulate you.

Answer 5

I am sorry but I don't see this relationship being a healthy one. This is not normal behavior and he is probably not going to get better. You don't change someones password, you don't tell someone you cheated on them....this is not funny....He is trying to make you insecure and doudt yourself...I say get out now! You are young and he would not be a good role model for your son. He may just be immature but at 24 he should be more grown up.I am sure he is insecure but he shouldn't make you feel like this.

Answer 6

You know the answer. You need a new BF. It seems that you may have a history of making bad choices in men. Take a year to explore this. Don't date until you understand what you've done wrong in the past. A good BF doesn't;

Get jealous
Hit you
Leave you
Play games
Lie
Cheat

Have more respect for yourself. Live a happy life.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Not only insecure but acting like a little kids. But what you need to realize is that do you really want to be around someone who is jealous all the time. And not be able to talk with anyone. But it's your decision. Also he seems to be controling and next time change your password and don't give it to him. because your not married to him and you can talk with anyone you want. SO talk to him about it and if he doens't liek it get rid of him and move on and be glad to find out how he is before it really got serious.

Answer 8

I would ditch them all. If they get jelous talking to your ex then it will never work out considering you have a kid together. As for the ex, if he cheated on you, there is a good chance he will do it again. I mean some people do change but you have to decide if he changed for yourself cuz we don't know him.

Answer 9

your new boyfriend will have to be mature enough to understand that you will always have a bond with your child's father, it doesn't mean you will get back with him but you have to maintain a civilized relationship with him for the sake of your child, your boyfriend is insecure and has alot of growing up to do if he wants to stay in this relationship....

Answer 10

whom do you love most? the son's father or your bf? you have to decide and lose the other one. good luck.