Can he really be ready to settle at 22?

Question

He really wants this relationship but I worry I would have better chances with an older guy (say 2 - 6 years older than me). He is almost 2 years younger at 22, but says he is very mature for his age and only dates older women (I am the youngest so far). Can this really happen or am I just on the road to disaster? I am ready for serious commitment, can a guy at 22 actually be ready for that!? He says he is ready to settle, but I say he is very attractive and could easily play the field longer, a lot longer. He says he has played the field long enough and is tired of it. He also says he watched his older roomie let a great girl slip away and he could never let me slip away. He talks about moving 8 hours away to be with me. He has a good career, is driven and very independant. My ex, 26, was so far from ready for even a girlfriend!.... Age or life experience?

Answer 1

MY HUSBAND WAS 21 WHEN WE GOT MARRIED.WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 9YRS. I THINK IF HE HAS FOUND TRUE LOVE WITH YOU THEN YES HE IS READY.GOOD LUCK.

Answer 2

That's a tough question. A lot of folks will tell you that at 22 he's not old enough or mature enough to make that kind of committment. I know I wasn't at that age, and I'm only 24 now! But age isn't the only thing to consider here. It sounds like he's got a pretty good head on his shoulders, so he may be ready for this. When my parents married, my mother was not quite 20 and my father was 21. They were happily married for close to 27 years before my father died. They were the first ones to admit that they married too young and they should have waited, but it still worked for them. Who knows, maybe they were lucky?

Listen, no one can know for sure whether he is really ready to make this kind of committment. Even he doesn't know for sure that he won't some day look back and wish he'd had more time to date around. But you can't hold his age against him. Why not let the relationship take the natural course it's meant to take and see where that leads you. If he's serious about wanting to committ to you, he should be willing to respect that while you want the same things as he does ultimately in the relationship, you're not ready to jump in with both feet just yet. Listen to your heart, it won't steer you wrong. And communicate with him. He needs to know how you're feeling about all of this.

Answer 3

I am 25 and I am a pilot and I am still not ready to settle down. To me it has to do with life experience/ You can be 22 and more independant then a 26 year old. . If he loves you he can wait. Do what is in your heart then you will find the answer , you only live once ;-) Even if it is a disaster at least you are living but just to watch on the side ;-)

Answer 4

I'd say life experience. You never know whats going to happen unless you give things a chance. My husband is turning 29 this year, and I'm turning 22. We've been married for almost 2 yearsand known each other for almost 5. You should give him a chance, he knows what he wants and if he's done playing the field then he's done. It'd suck for u to turn him down then for him to eventually marry the next girl he's with. That could be you. Think about things in a positive way.

Answer 5

I think it's all in the mind ! You can be ready to settle at 21 or you cannot be ready for your entire life...even when you are 50 ! It's how you deal with life.....it can teach you a lot in a fewer years and it might take a lifetime for someone to learn almost nothing ! If he says he is ready.....he might be ! He wouldn't say it just like that because it takes a lot of thinking & planning before you want to settle down. What is the guarantee that a man who is older to you would want to settle down soon ? Situations make people what they are....maybe this guys situation allows him to settle down sooner than other people.
Unless ofcourse he is just making a fool of himself and you ! And is a con man ! You are the only one who can judge that. All the best !

Answer 6

If he says he's ready to settle down then, trust him.You know him better than I do but it sounds to me like the guy is being sincere. My husband and I also got married young, and I think age has little or nothing to do with someone's maturity level. I mean I've met some really immature 40 year olds so again, don't go by age. If he's ready and you're ready and you both love each other then TAKE THE PLUNGE!Put your insecurities to rest and do it already!

Answer 7

Well, I think that its possible. SOme people go thru things early in life, he's probably had his share at an early age, and now he's tired of playing around. It does get really old, all the dating and bed hopping. There are people on this earth (like myself) that are old souls; they are mature for their age and take life a little more serious than others. Take him seriously if his actions and his words are matching. In the words of the great late Aaliyah "age ain't nuthin but a number!"

Answer 8

Yes, he can be ready. My husband and I were married when he was 21 and I was 28. We've been married now for six years and going strong. It's all about the life experience, not necessarily the man's age. My ex, who is now 38, wasn't really ready for a commitment when we got married. Trust your instincts on this fella and if he says he's ready, go for it!

Answer 9

I think you are too focused on age. If you say he is mature, and he tells you he is ready, then why are you overthinking it? Only he knows what is right for him, and he's made his decision. Enjoy it- sounds like you've found a good thing worth working on and keeping. good luck!

Answer 10

he'll be your ball and chain till the day you dies if you settle with him. fool is lying to himself, no 22 year old man wants to settle down unless he's insecure and afraid to be alone. sounds like you got a real winner there, lol...