before we are very poor and my parents sacrifice too much for me to finish my studies. Now that I'm earning well, i want them to experience first the fruits of their sacrifices before i settle down. I want to take them abroad and give them the life they never experienced.But my Gf is already hinting marriage and i'm afraid of losing her as well. i know i can still help them but i'm sure also that it will not be the same when i'm already married. Am i attached too much to my family?
2007-02-21 03:38:59 · 10 answers · asked by arnold l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a grateful son you are! What you do for your parents is not her business. If she is hinting marriage, let her hint....you can tell her your'e not ready and be honest about wanting to do things for your parents because of their sacrifices for you and your education. She'll either be okay with this or NOT.. Tell your girl that you want to do some things for the folks and that being married she may not understand and for the sake of argument, you want to pamper the folks (who aren't going to be around forever).
2007-02-21 03:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!I am going trough a similar thing right now...only difference is that the "process" has not yet begun.I mean that my family is very poor and I want to study at an University and they have promised me to only if I get my exams of course.But I know that this will be a big sacrifice for them and when I finish my education and start my awesome,well-paid job the first thing I would like to do is make up for all of the sacrifices they have made for me.And if your GF truly cares for you she would understand.
2007-02-21 11:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by brich_inc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Family comes first. You can still provide your parents with a life that they have never experienced and keep your gf. Just tell her that you aren't ready for marriage yet. Tell her you have things that you want to do with your family first. If you two are really serious, then involve her in the plans that you have for your family. If she doesn't understand where you are coming from, then she doesn't love you like she says she does.
2007-02-21 11:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that no one will be there for you like family will. You may argue fuss and fight but who are the first people you call when you get into a jam your parents. For me its my mom so if you want to take your parents on a vacation then do that they sacrificed everything to make sure you went to school, had clothes to wear and food in your tummy. I think it would be a nice gesture to let them know you appreciate it. And don't let anyone pressure u into marriage. Make sure you are ready and that she is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-02-21 12:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont rush into marriage but dont but ur g/f on the back burner. Until you are married it's ok to be "attached" to your family. But when you get married your first priority needs to be you wife, as you will learning this in marriage counsiling (most churchs require it before marriage) Once you are married you will need to provide for your own family (you and your wife) first, But dont totally shut out ur parents, becasue when you have children they will help you out alot and offer good advice, and i'm sure you would want your parents to be part of their wife. The same goes for you g/f if you do decided to marry her.
2007-02-21 11:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by I Like Grapes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi while you can you should help your family ,dont rush into marriage and all that you have plenty of time ,your parents loved you enough to do what they did ,i am not saying you owe them because thats what parents do but just try and make their lives a little better ,you only have one set of parents xxxx
2007-02-21 11:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r exactly hw u shud b wid ur family. they r d ones who sacrificed everytin for ur well being so in turn u shud reward dem with ur kindness n love. if she really loves u then she wil understand u n ur parents feelings. if u think she s d right person for ur life then talk to her parents n ask for some years time so dat u can b well settled in ur life which u dreamed of giving it to ur parents n den hav ur wedding. since u r already aware of the pain that ur parents had taken to bring u up to this position so its better that u giv ur first priority to ur parents n fulfill ur dreams
2007-02-21 11:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by Shoeflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better then not having a family at all. Take it from me, I know.
2007-02-21 11:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your gf loves you she will understand you wanting to do something nice for your family. as long as you can afford it, then go ahead. if your not ready for marriage yet, tell her so.
2007-02-21 11:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by bulloch2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never be too attatched to your family! They are a part of you and will always be no matter what!
2007-02-21 11:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋