lost my gf of 2 years few weeks ago- been quite wierd since, met up with her few times- she says she will think bout things then few days later doesnt want to know me.
Spoke to one of her old school mates last night, and she said that its not like her at all. that she is just being like it to fit in with her new work crowd and is trying to be popular. meen they left her on her own on a night out last week. she was gona walk all the way home but we bumped into eachother- and i cut my night short to get her home. meen how can they be mates if they leave her? though she has gone back to them and told me she doesnt want to know me no more and she never wants to see me again.
Why do people get like that? meen i never treated her bad and cant she see they arnt true friends? it anoys me alot because i can see her throwing her life away
2007-02-21 03:23:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have figured out that she isnt worth sweet f**k all if she is willing to chuck me that easy- its just weird because she gives me mixed signals like one minute she doesnt want to know me then the next she likes me. then it seems she goes away spends time with her mates and doesnt want to know me again.
I know deep down that part of her wants to get back with me- though it seems like something is stopping her and that is her mates? i meen she might have found somebody else though i dont get tht feeling from her. any more views?
2007-02-21 10:23:52 · update #1
Let her throw it away JD. You are obviously a guy who cares deeply and is able to forgive her selfish nature but you seem to be in love with some-one who doesn't deserve you.You will find someone who recognises and responds to your good nature and respects you for that and loves you because of it. Let it go my friend Maybe she will realise the grass wasn't greener on the other side, but by the time she does I bet you'll probably have met someone else anyway. If you are as kind as you showed when you helped her even after she did this to you then you will and you won't be the one with regrets then.
In a few weeks you'll be very angry at what she's done and it will make you think, rightly or wrongly, that she cares only for her own needs at any cost to others, this will help you move on. I'm not telling you to rule her out completely, you never know, she may surprise you yet. There was obviously something special there to last 2 years. Although if someone is able to disregard your last 2 years for her own idea of personal gain then maybe she wasn't very nice after all. Look I don't know her. Maybe she's lovely and it's just a temporary "thing she's going through" Who knows with women anyway. They never know what they really want. Good luck. and don't give up on love and trust. Those two are the key to a happy future. Miss right might be heading your way right now
2007-02-21 03:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by Yeah yeah yeah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is bored! that is what it comes down to. She could see her life stretching out in front of her and she didn't like it.
She wants change and is not being too fussy about where it comes from.
A small question though, did she know that you were out that night? It doesn't sound like a coincidence.
Her friends are not the bad guys. She probably wasn't left, and even if she was, she's a big girl now. (If she is not, then she shouldn't be out in the first place). All she needed to do was jump in a taxi. Don't let her play games with you, she has made her decision.
My friend did this, she ended up going out with a horrible guy, who had a girlfriend which my friend knew all about. But at the time she wouldn't listen to us, it was too much fun and excitement. We all wanted her to get back with her ex, as he was lovely and we missed him. But she wouldn't as she was young and didn't want something that serious. However by the end of the year she had met a new guy, and had started a serious relationship. She needed to get something out of her system.
Yes she wants to fit in! That's normal, what is not normal is to expect to be in a long-term serious relationship when you are still changing so much.
2007-02-21 03:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i,m sorry that happened to u but thats a part of life now,one day your with someone u love and the next they just take off and sometimes without a why.she didn,t really appreciate u as u thought.sometimes it,s for the best.someone better always comes along.even thought u dedicated 2 years to being with her it,s never easy letting go but eventually you,ll get there and survive the lost.lots luck to u,hope u be ok.
2007-02-21 03:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're better off without her. If are really desperate to have her back then perhaps you could do some things to show her how special she is to you. However, it probably won't work out. If she is willing to ditch you at the drop of a hat to 'fit in' then she's not worth it quite frankly.
2007-02-21 03:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by lollysarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are better off without her and lucky you found out now what type of person she is. If she is willing to drop you like that for new work crowd then she is not worth it. Remember what comes around goes around and looks like she will find out the hard way.
2007-02-21 03:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by kap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peer pressure...
she just wants people to 'accept' her...
right now, shes trying to 'find herself'
she can't see how much of a better person she is... but if she's puching you away, it means she's taking the bull by the horns... she wants to give it a go and see where it ends
Just give her time and she'll finally see the light at the end of the tunnel...
2007-02-21 03:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Rockerfairy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seems immature, dont worry mate you havent done anything wrong its just her being stupid because her mates probably dont approve or something - especially if she is young she probably isnt ready for a relationship yet.
ive had some similar relationship with a girl before and after awhile she came back to me when she fell out with her best friends, as much as i cared for her at one time i didnt after because i realised how horrible she is.
you deserve much better mate,
dont worry you will meet lots more girls :) if she wants to get back with you she will let you know.
2007-02-21 03:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to read about that, but what you have to do is let her new friends (those aren't friends at all) mistreat her. She doesn't see it that way because as you said she want to fit in. All you can do is go on your way and let her be, one day she will finally wake up and see that they aren't really her friends and you'll be there for her when she realize who are her true friend or friends are. And if she want to throw her life way then let her, you need to continue yours.
2007-02-21 03:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,let her get on with it.Make a new life & be glad you found out now that she is very selfish if she cared about you she would not be with them.Good Luck hope you meet some one who gives you the same love back.
2007-02-21 03:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a silly wee girl and not grown up yet. You sound very mature, if you really love her maybe you will have to wait till she grows up a bit, she will soon get fed up with her so called friends as that is what they are so called
2007-02-21 03:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Janet C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋