I'm not a bad person. I talk to a lot of girls, but I can never muster up the courage to ask anyone. I have suffered greatly due to this, and I need as much help as I can get.
2007-02-21 03:20:53 · 28 answers · asked by mtoutlaw_87 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, so you DO talk to girls. That's good.That's a start.Okay so, now that we got that out of the way lets focus on why you can't ask them out.
I mean, what's the worst that can happen? You asked a girl out and she said "NO". BIG DEAL!!! So you move on to the next one.Seriously take it from a girl, when I've gotten asked out, even if I do say "NO THANKS" it still makes me feel flattered that someone saw me in that light.
Don't be afraid. And don't try any stupid corny lines either. Please, we girls H-A-T-E that! Just be sincere! Example: If you see a girl you like smile at her, if she smiles back then ask her out, if she doesn't, move on. If you get a good response then, just go up to her and say "Hi, my name is xxxxxxxx, I think you're really beautiful and I would love to buy you a cup of coffee sometime and get to know you better."
See, it's short, it's simple, it's NOT a pick-up line and it sounds genuine. Try that. You have to step up to the plate at some point hun.Unless you wanna die alone, or unless you want to end up like the 40 year old virgin!LOL!!Keep me posted.
2007-02-21 03:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Yeah I'm sure people know that you are not a bad person, as well as the girls you talk to. So are you saying that you like one of the girls you have as a friend? For some guys it is easy for them to talk to a girl just on a friendly basis but when it comes to more than that they can't seem to do it. All you need to do is sit think about what you want to say to this girl, then go to her and say whatever it is. Just remember to have courage and always keep an open mind. Reason being, she might do or say something unkind to you and probably won't see it coming. So keeping an open mind is really good. But don't let those unkind words get you down. Because there are lots of girls out there that would love to talk to you you just haven't seen her as yet. Sit tight you 'll find her one day.
2007-02-21 11:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Natty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suffered the same thing. This is going to be the wrong way to answer this but it is what worked for me. In the military I recieved my badge of drinking which meant I could handle my booze very well. So well that I could still carry on an intelligent conversation and not feel so shy or intimidated with a girl. I went for broke and started using liquid courage as my hand up and it worked. Thanks to Mr Jack Daniels I have been married for over 9 years and life is good and I dont drink anymore either.
2007-02-21 11:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"I can never muster up the courage to ask anyone"- answered your question but.....
First step is getting the girl to go out with you. The more you ask girls out the easier it is each time. Just be yourself and if they reject yah its ok. Kinda like fishing some get away.
2007-02-21 11:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by random/\me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey buddy relax...sounds like your to the point that your trying to hard and worrying about it to much. Relax, i have been in the same boat when i was younger, trust me i know. Seemed like everytime i talked to a girl i cant ask her to go to a movie or diner...well that will all change. What i started doing was making myself feel better..i started working out more, getting involved in more sports. Girls can sense low self-esteem and that kinda draws them away. You need to go back and find you and then she will appear!! Also..if your picky..that's even better don't just settle to have a gf, find one that you will go far with!! You deserve a great woman so pick yourself up and just take a step back from this and start building yourself up!! Good luck!
2007-02-21 11:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by J J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're still young, you will eventually build up courage. But I say, start asking girls out now, and prepare yourself for the ONE. All you have to say is, "Would you like to go out on a date with me?" If you're a good person, a lot of girls would go out with you. Good Luck.
2007-02-21 11:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by amberlynne_2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you know a girl who knows you well who would be honest with her ask her opinion about what might be keeping you from attracting other girls. That should be your best bet. Other than that girls like funny guys and bad boys and more girls than not like muscular guys ( I certainly DO NOT but it has definitely been my observation that most girls do) and working out and building a buff bod will likely help you meet others and build the confidence to ask girls out. One more thing - always wear cologn!
2007-02-21 11:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ithink that you just need to build up some curage. And instead of talking to a lot of girls, concentrate on one girl. When it seems like she likes you and you guys have a good connection ask her to go to the movies or out to eat or somethin. You just can't be scared of what might happen, and focus on the present.
2007-02-21 13:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girls might see you as a friend, plus the girls you might talk to might make you seem shallow. They girls might be looking for prince charming...seriously..I know. You have to be smooth about things, Never ask them out, let it happen. Like ask her out to dinner, and be romantic, but stay yourself. Ask her out to dinner again, and tell her you had a great night and you would enjoy to see more of her and her beautiful smile in the week. Asking out is for high schoolers. Woman love flowers, men calling back, but not seeming too desperate. You have to give her space.
2007-02-21 11:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you too available? as weird as that is, it's a turn off. are you the quiet type? do you try to impress? i mean i don't have much to go on. i don't know you but here are a few tips:
smell good, have a sense of humor, be a gentlemen, be confident, get a good haircut, mellow out, don't hesitate, take control yet be considerable. don't be too available, most chicks like to put a little effort into getting a man interested. good luck
2007-02-21 11:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by ..:: Liz ::.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋