My fiance and I love eachother with all our hearts and want to get married, but lately he's been acting strange.
He seems to not care to call me anymore, and hes not affectionate unless he wants some sex. Ever since his brother and friend moved into his house, hes been kind of distant with me.
He says its all stress, but I'm the type of person who likes to look for signs in case I have to get my emotions ready for anything that comes.
We've been together for almost 9 months, if that helps. Yesterday he kind of complained that I need to chill and not expect so much from him since I see him everyday (unless hes with the guys) and I IM and E-mail him everyday.
I dont get it. He says he loves when we hang out, he loves the IMing and E-mailing. He says he's just stressed.
Whats really going on?
2007-02-21 03:14:42 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He asked me to marry him without any hints from me. If anything, I wasnt as ready as he was when he asked the question.
It has always been a serious relationship. He's done with chasing girls (he tells me) and doesnt like those girls that are just in it for one thing.
Im guessing he's affectionate when it comes to sex because he needs a way to de-stress. idk
2007-02-21 03:31:15 · update #1
He's probably OD'ing on the closeness. Do the two of you have activities that you do separately? Does he have an occasional night out with the boys (without you)? If not, he probably just needs some space. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but guys don't feel the same desire to spend every waking minute together that many women do. This is good for you, too; you have some emotional needs that can only be met by your friendships with other women. Trying to get those met by your man will only frustrate both of you.
That said, if he does have sufficient time away from you, his distance can be a sign of another problem. Maybe he doesn't want to get married, or at least is in less of a hurry about it than you are. Who proposed, you or him? If him, did you prompt him in any way or give him an ultimatum? Maybe he was happy with the relationship as it was and only agreed to the current arrangement because he thought he'd lose you otherwise. The thing is, you two don't belong together if you want different things. If you want marriage and he only wants a girlfriend who is "on tap" for fun and sex, you'd each be better off with someone who wants the same thing. Either way, it's time for a serious talk.
2007-02-21 03:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would chill a little ,step back n see what happens.if he dosent come around u know that weres something more going on..then u can make some decisions on ur furture..gl
2007-02-21 11:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋