Okay, so my fiance says my family does not treat me fairly and they do not treat me with respect. I have known this for a while, but they are my family and I feel that I need to keep in touch with them. My mother disrespects my fiance all of the time and tells me I can move back into her house if I ever wanted to. There is nothing wrong me my relationship with my fiance, I am just the baby of the family and I think my mother is scared to let go. I have tried talking to my family about this, but nothing ever changes. I dont want to make my fiance upset, but at the same time I dont want to lose contact with my family. Can someone give me some advice?
2007-02-21 03:09:25 · 4 answers · asked by Virginia Gal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know exactly where you're coming from, just maybe not to the extent. I'm the baby of my family too and my mother always seemed put off by my husband. She would hardly look or speak to him when we would visit. But you just have to be strong and tell her that you don't appreciate the way she talks about your marriage and that its disrespectful to say such things. It's like she's HOPING you get a divorce. Tell her that if she continues to treat you and your husband this way, there will be no contact. It's hard to do, but you have to. My mom just needed to get warmed up to my husband and let go of the fact that I wasn't her little girl anymore. Hang in there, and always remember that you should put your husband first, your parents will have to understand and learn to appreciate your marriage. Best of luck!
2007-02-21 03:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the fiance to chill.I do believe that the family is just thinking of you as the youngest child.He really should never try to make trouble between blood.How does he treat his family?If he's not close to them,he'll try to make you like him, so he has no one to compete with.Your Mom will always be Mom, so just try to convince her that you are OK.Are you really young?Good luck..
2007-02-21 03:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose contact with your family. They are the only ones who will give you unconditional love. It's the place you can go to when you cannot go anywhere else.
Be suspicious of someone who wants you to cut ties with your family. That is very controlling and is a tactic used by abusers.
2007-02-21 03:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you answered your own question your the baby of course its not gonna be easy keep working at it
2007-02-21 03:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by icychicmillenium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋