my neighbor, this guy is turning 34. his girlfriend of 2 years said her family is against her relationship because she only revealed about it now. she said she wasn't sure it'd work out, so she kept it quiet. they moved in together now & the girl is petrified her family will disown her when they find out. my neighbor's family knows about this move & on their side, they are happy for them. i feel sorry for the girl though. she seemed distracted, anxious & can hardly sleep or eat. she said she's depressed & seeks therapy. poor guy, i feel this is too much for him to handle pretty soon. what to do?
2007-02-21 02:41:31 · 17 answers · asked by ashley b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, it isn't too old. some families like doing this as a means of poking their noses where its not wanted and from their perspective they're trying to get u a guy that ticks every box for them and not considering the girl. A family that is going to disown you over your choice of partners aren't really worth having as they don't really love u to begin with and don't care whether the relationship is for love or not. What suits them is best, not yours. I say this is too old and people need to stop living in and leave the 18th century behind and start living in the 21st century and embrace, for goddness sake..times have moved on since then!!
2007-02-21 05:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie b 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless your neighbour asked you to post this question best left alone. Too difficult for us to really give an answer. It obviously cannot be a straightforward man/woman relationship or niether of them would bother what her family thinks as they would be totally unreasonable. However, if it is due to a background of a different culture, a person with slight special needs, physical handicaps, mental illness then there could be a lot of sorting out to do and at the moment a lot of worry and anxiety being caused all around. Sorry to be so negative but in a normal relationship with 2 adults of that age this just doesn't happen to this extent.
2007-02-21 03:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to say not your place to ask really but if concerned talk to her say she old enough to live her own life.. If family really love her they'll come around unless he a dead beat druggie!! You don't choose your family but at thirty three should have pretty good idea as to what you want in life and if he makes her truly happy she doin right....
2007-02-21 09:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for her to cut the cord and become her own woman. She needs to come to terms with the fact that she is a grown woman and needs to live life for herself. No amount of therapy is going to help unless she is willing to admit a few simple truths to herself.
2007-02-21 02:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if this "woman" is not emotionally mature enough for this kind of committment. If she is that concerned with her family's response and reaction to her decision she is not adult enough to stand up to them and must have self-esteem issues. Does your neighbor realize what this says about her? Good luck to them and God Bless.
2007-02-21 03:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 33 she is old enough to make up her own mind about her life. It is her life and she can do what she wants to.
2007-02-21 04:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me thinks there's more to this girl than meets the eye! Me also thinks it wont be good. Best keep out of it.
2007-02-21 04:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there another reason? Is there a religious problem like she is a Jehova's Witness and he isn't? There may be more going on than you know.
2007-02-21 02:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by Del Piero 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say that the girl is a big girl now and needs to standup for herself she doenst need everybodys approval. as long as she is happy when she is with the guy then that is what matters
2007-02-21 02:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is she? this is not your problem - they are both adults. If they need therapy find a reputable one for them and then stand back.
2007-02-21 07:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋