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I am 23 and my girlfriend is 34. She has a 70,000 pound a year job as a lawyer which in a few months will become 300,000. I am a primary school teacher.The problem is I never see her.She works 16 hours a day seven days a week.I'm worried for her health and our relationship. I have spoken to her about this and she says"Don't complain if I didn't work long hours you wouldn't have a ferrari in the drive!" I would prefer we lived in low cost housing and she was a cleaner if I got to see more of her. What can I do? Shall I just except this is the kind of life I will have to live as the girlfriend of a high-flying proffesional?

2007-02-21 02:27:57 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Money doesnt buy love and she needs to know that. But she also needs the freedom to grow and to accomplish her dreams in life just as you do. I think that maybe the both of you are on different stages in life. She doesnt seem ready to settle down which is not a bad thing but it doesnt seem what you are looking for. If you love her and you want to be with her just wait it out a little while. I do however think relationships are 50/50. She should take some time off to be with you. It isnt fair for you that you never see her. If you dont like this type of life then you know you have to go look for something else or else you'll never be happy. My father told me the best advice one time: Never settle for less than what you want.Always keep that in mind. I believe this life is all about being happy. Just make yourself happy that's all i can say

2007-02-21 02:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by texastreasure 3 · 0 1

Do you want a girlfriend or a Ferrari, that is the question.

If you want a girlfriend then you need to break up. Don't ask her to change, she may prefer money to relationships, many people do.

What is her view on children? I mean this as no offence to you, but she may prefer a younger man, because he/you would not be so quick to want to rush into being a parent. By the time you are ready, she may be like I am too old now, or I don't want a baby at this stage of my life, I have left it too late etc. If she does want children, then you could hold out, she can't work that much and be a mum. (Its an option, but I don't recommend it)

If I were you I would move on, the last thing you want to feel is guilt and greed for staying with her for the lifestyle.

2007-02-21 02:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0 1

Tell her how you feel if that doesn't work leave her

Hopefully she will realise that life is also about love and companionship not just money and work if she asks you back and stops working so much to spend more time with you then you know she does love you. Maybe she thinks that you would only be with her for her money.

If she doesn't call or try to work things out then you know she never really loved you in the first place

It is hard but you have to do it because if you don't you might end up in your 40's and then she dumps you if she is so career minded you may never have children and you would have lost the chance for that and lots more by staying with her. Just be brave and call her bluff.

I hope you can work this out without such extreme measures, good luck xx

2007-02-21 02:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0 1

She seems too old for you. The age difference should be the other way round & it seems that she is wearing the trousers & you a Frock.

Professional people have to work long hours & she is earning well & if you want to continue the relationship that is what you have to put up with.

She needs to give you a baby to keep you occupied while she is at work.

She aint got long to go till her retirement & it seems that you will both have pots of money to have a good retirement so stop spending money on expensive toys & you can help spend what she has earned.

Make sure that you are covered on the house deeds etc.

2007-02-21 02:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 1 1

well its obvious u r really serious about this girl, but she seems 2 think that u r more into da money .
u need 2 show her how much u love her.
don't take advantage of her money .
if u wnt 2 do something extreme then sell da car!
or just send her a txt at work saying u love her.
its completely up 2 u.
1 thing u do av 2 remember is dat a lawyer is a very busy job.

2007-02-21 03:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by minstrel 1 · 0 1

Hate to say this but as someone who has worked for lawyers, dude it is never going to change. Thats why most lawyers are divorced or on their way to splitsville. Its a tough lifesyle. Always on call and the calls keep coming in. You burn easily and your health is always being challenged. she sounds pretty tough. Just be supportive of her (i.e cook for her when you can and give her private time to regroup from those days). She probably gets vacation time, just make certain it is in sync with yours. Just remember Work hard play hard. Thats the key to managing both. It seems like she cares about you. time apart keeps the love life good. Good luck.

2007-02-21 02:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by workaholic 2 · 0 1

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2016-12-04 11:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by brenneman 4 · 0 0

Seems like her career is the main priority in her life, as often is the case with being a lawyer. You have to decide whether you dont mind playing second best to her career, if you love her that much then you should stay with her.

2007-02-21 02:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 1 · 0 1

Tell her that money doesn't buy happiness, and it's only thinning the love relation. Do something that'll show that you really do love her. Sell that ferarri, give all that money to charity. When she flips out or whatever, just say (for a lack of a better word), "I'm sorry, but I think that love is more valuable than money."

I'm really sorry for your inconvenience. And please, don't accept it. It's not happiness, is it? Although happiness is something hard to get, you don't need to live miserably. (And just so you know, people with a lot of money can be miserable. Money is nothing.)

I wish the best for you.

2007-02-21 02:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

let her work 1 year for £300.000
that would take most people 15-20 years to earn.
worth the sacrifise surly.
take a lighter job and enjoy life.
take that to her and see what she says.

oh and ferrari in the drive...boo hoo... that must be a pain.lol

2007-02-21 02:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by aberdeen302004 3 · 0 1

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