I met an amazing woman recently. We really clicked and went out again. Then she totally busted my head when she said she could never get serious with me because I didn't believe in God!
She's not some religious nut, she just really believes in God and wants to marry someone who feels the same. I am stunned because to me I felt we had so many other things going for us that didn't seem to be of concern but it totally wrenched any plans of a third date, if anything ever more.
What do you make of this situation? Can you share any experiences or insights into the matter? I told her I'd not call her any more but if she ever decided she wanted to see me, she could call.
2007-02-21 02:18:32 · 4 answers · asked by the darkman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please don't post stupid one line answers. This is a very real question.
2007-02-21 02:19:25 · update #1
This is simple. If she believes in god, let her. Do not let her change your mind or try and persuade you. Beliefs are very important to some people especially when it comes to religion. Do not let this ruin a possibly great relationship. I dont know if I believe in god but I always told myself if the girl I married did believe then I would not have an issue with her taking the kids to church (if she wanted). Beliefs make-up who we are, but it does not DEFINE who we are.
I have dated a few girls that were very into their religion (mostly catholic) I never made it an issue and when ever the subject came up I would change it.
2007-02-21 02:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Stuey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has standards she wont let anything slide. You may be a great person and could be the one for her but she knows what she want and wont settle for less. If you are interested maybe you should ask her questions find out more and if you are still feeling her get involed in her religion.
2007-02-21 02:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by SARAH D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm...pretty tough question...Sometimes it's hard for people to accept what others believe....Do you really not believe in god?...Or do you question certain aspects of just believing blindly?....I really think that this is an issue, that can not be overcome....She may not be a religious fanatic, but her beliefs are important to her, just as yours are important to you....She knows what she wants, someone who shares her beliefs...And you do not...Move on.....
2007-02-21 02:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by onekoolkat_31 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is better to end here than it is to get married to her and have children and then get in constant fights about how to talk to your children about religion and get divorced.
Sorry to hear she is like that. You will find someone else that does not have requirements for religious beliefs.
:)
2007-02-21 02:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋