My ex is such a jerk. He acted so sweet and got me fooled. When he thought he'd had enough of me he cruelly left. I tried everything for the relationship but he just ignored me. I know it's over now but it hurt like hell! He caused so much pain to my life and almost ruined me. I truly loved him with all my heart. I am getting over him now and started to hate him. Now I hate him more and more with each passing day and sometimes I can't control my anger. What can I do to ease the hatred and make me totally over him??
Thank you.
2007-02-21 02:13:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all so much!
2007-02-23 21:15:42 · update #1
Like a lot of women, you went out and found the worst thing you possibly could. Take responsibility for it and be glad you did not breed with him.
2007-02-21 02:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Take a break from dating, get your head straight.
2. No guy is worth this anguish. If he left you, consider yourself lucky. Think of how bad it would have been if you were married to the ******, or if you had a kid with this moron.
3. I'd suggest hitting the gym, take up kick boxing. It can be very therapeutic, and will help you channel the frustration and rage in a non-lethal fashion. Plus, when you work out, your body releases endorphins that allow you to feel better both mentally and physically.
4. Be a little more guarded in who you let into your life. Not every guy who says you are beautiful is honest. You just need to focus on the guy rather than get carried away by his lines.
2007-02-21 02:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl I've been there, done that! Hate is the closest thing to love, remember? My ex is a jerk too a major one! However, I don't hate him now, I used to...I guess I got tired of waisting my energy on him because without a doubt you are thinking about him and the things he did to you if not you wouldn't be hating him (thus using your priceless energy to hate him). SO , that right there keeps you feeling something for him even if its the opposite of love, but you are still thinking and feeling for him. Bottom line is, the Jerk is still controlling you, he still has you thinking about his sorry self. Allow youself to think about the crappy human he is BUT don't agitate yourself by harvesting feelings of hatred. Do you believe in God? Surrender all your hatred and anger to God. He said once that revenge is His and only His. I guarantee you that Mr. Jerk is going to pay everything he did to you. Who knows, maybe in 10 months from now he'll be calling to say I am sorry like the looser he is BUT for now you have to let go of every feeling , love or hate, that you feel for him. Give up, surrender to God and he will take care of the rest . When we give God the control of our life beutiful things happen...trust me I know. My ex went to Iraq and when he came back told me he didn't love me and dissapeared . I hated him but God showed me a better way to deal with the pain, he'll do the same for you. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-02-21 02:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by EV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal when we get hurt to then turn that hurt into anger. But until you come to terms with this anger you will not get over him, as what he did still has impact on you. Maybe it would be good to remember this, he was not able to fool and treat you badly unless you had allowed it. So my advice to you would be to do some soul searching into why it was you had allowed yourself to be such an easy target at being treated so badly. We all love and trust and it hurts to have our love unappreciated and betrayed. But loving someone does not mean we allow for any form of disrespect for ourselves. Think about this and maybe you can then begin to put all your feelings of anger to work for you and not against you. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-21 02:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts sometimes and breakdown in relationships is normal. Hate is also a step in the process of getting over him. So embrace that step and when you would have acknowledge that some things he did was downright nasty to you, then you move on to the next step in the process. For everyone, the steps are in different order but we all have to go through them.
In the meantime. be good to you.
do things that you enjoy.
Laugh alot at yourself and life
move away, if you can.
create new meaning and space in your life for new opportunities.
2007-02-21 02:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by singsong 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Badmouth him. Hack his email. Get his GF on youre side.
Im Joking. Dont do any of that crap.
He may have ruined youre life but revenge wont do anything better. Trust me. You could always rip up his picture, but right now spend time with youre girlfriends and find a new guy who wont hurt you for the world.
2007-02-21 02:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by boom boom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's done is done dear and you've got to move on. i've just broke off with someone who made me think that he loves me, but i'm sure he can't love anyone else but him self. That's life honey.. some people are sick and do anything to get what they want from others. Just move on. you're better than him. you loved him, he fooled you and full stop. we can't go back in tima and change what happened. but we can forge our future. so think of a better future. Sto thinking about him and enjoy your life. i don't say it's easy or you won't ever think about him. you will remember him and you'll hate him for a long time. and someday you'll find the one that deserves your love. he will make you forget that bastard...
Peace :)
2007-02-21 02:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ghaloushka 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget the jerk completely! He's not worth your time. You're a good person who was taken in by a bad person. Don't dwell on it or he wins! If you try hard to put this behind you, and not show the hurt, He'll be the loser! Big time!!!! Get with it sweetheart, you can do it!
2007-02-21 02:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear there's a fine line between love and hate. This is where you are at. Don't waste your energy hating him, just let it go. Like Miss Shredder said imagine he died and move on with your life. Hating him just gives him more power over you.
2007-02-21 02:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I am totally consumed with hate, I hit the gym and work out hard. You need to work out the frustration. I know how you feel but don't let this idiot ruin your day.
2007-02-21 02:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋