he was my one. Now, I feel like I need to find out. We have dated 6 years and broke up a few times. I love him and care about him, and I do not want to hurt him.
We are broke up and he is set on us getting back together. I want to go date and see what else is there.
Is this wrong and how do I avoid hurting someone I care so much about? How do I know if I am making a mistake?
2007-02-21 02:11:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only mistake you will make is, if you go back with him. These feelings do not change after you get back in the relationship. They will just fester in you until you either cheat or do something else that will hurt him.
He needs to know how you feel but DELICATELY. Just because you want to go out and experience life it doesn't mean you dont care about him.
2007-02-21 02:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by Stuey 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, this is not wrong if you feel in your heart that u want to date other people. I know that this is hard but its better to find out now then later when u have gotten married and u r not happy. You need to tell him how u feel even though its a hard thing to do. They say that if its true love then it will come back.
2007-02-21 02:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by clueless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can deal with him being with someone else then go ahead and date other people. Just remember that he might not be there if you want him back. Is it possible that you only wanted him for the thrill of the chase and now that he wants you, you're bored?? Good luck.
2007-02-21 02:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might feel the same way have you talked to him?? You have to take care of yourself first. I know it is hard but hink of yourself above all, but don't shut him out completly and don't make it a bad break or you will ruin the chances of ever getting woth him again if you relize that is waht you want. men are hard headed i should know, but if you explaoin it in simple terms it should make the transition easier, good luck to you.
2007-02-21 02:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by fuller_0_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pretty clear about what you want to do-see what's out there. So do that.
Let him know that you need a breather and some space and you both should date other people in the meantime and see how it goes.
2007-02-21 02:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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That's called the "fear of the unknown".
Nothing wrong with that as it's actually normal.
Here's the real question: are you READY to settle down?
If not, then go sow your royal oats.
If you are, then I'll tell you what's out there: the same, SINGLE, DEAD END people with no direction or purpose. That's why all of them are there.
Before you know it, you'll be 55 asking if your friends can go with you to Bingo night - while you live ALONE (no companion).
That's real talk.
Good luck.
2007-02-21 02:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what makes you happy. If you think that, after you married him, you'd be constantly looking back and asking yourself "what am I missing?" then he's not worth it. There must be something absent in his personality that you want. If you really do care about him and he makes you happy, though, you should get back together with him.
2007-02-21 02:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you settle now you will always regret not having the experience to try dating new people. If he truely is everything he claims to be he'll be there when/if your ready. What's that saying... "If you truely love someone let them go... If the love is for real they will return." He should be willing to do that for you.
2007-02-21 02:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your scared. Your not in love!
2007-02-21 02:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋