i am getting married and i asked my 13 year old sister to be my made of honor .... she lives with my older sister since our mom died 4 years ago and she totaly controls her . she said she can walk but she cant spend the night before and she is gonna do her hair... i wanted all my girls that are walking to get there hair done with me the day of the wedding professionally ...i want there hair all to be the same! am i wrong for being upset and how do i get her to under stand?
2007-02-21 01:58:57 · 11 answers · asked by sassy4you 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i have already told everyone i am paying to have there hair done and my sister knows that .i even bought my little sister her dress ...i told her i was paying for everything for my little sister.
2007-02-21 02:09:32 · update #1
Your sister may feel uncomfortable in staying overnight. You shouldn't force her if she doesn't want to stay. Your sister can still get ready with you the day of the wedding without spending the night before. And since your sister is young, she probably should have a different hair style then your other attendants so she doesn't look to old. Sit down and talk with both your older and younger sister. Ask your older sister if she and your little sister can come over in the morning to get ready and have a professional stylist do her hair. And reassure them both that she will have some input on the type of hairstyle that she likes.
Also you might want to reconsider having all of your attendants wear the same hairstyle. Each of your attendants has their own personalities and hairstyles look different on each person. I think it would be fine if their hairstyles are similar, without being exactly the same (i.e., all up-dos, all semi-up dos, all down but with some variety). After all, your attendants aren't exactly the same so they shouldn't have to look exactly the same.
2007-02-21 02:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Congrats. in advance...may your marriage be way better than mine!
I had a huge Military Wedding, everybody spent so much energy and money and plenty of stress in effort to make this the perfect day for us, but I was so busy sweatin' the small stuff (like hair issues) that I ended up falling asleep on my wedding night!!!!
If I had it all to do over (first of all it would be w/ a different man) then I would have spent way less time, stress and money.
People get so worked up about weddings and honeymoons...
Wish we would have kept them both simple and meaningful, instead of expensive and stressful.
Is it really the end of the world if your sister hair isn't a mirror image of the other girls?
Now if it's just that you want her to be there with you, out of love and moral support then yes...I'd be sad, but hair? Girl, please.
2007-02-21 10:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe you made a bad choice in choosing your Maid of Honor. She just isn't old enough. Explain to both of your sisters that you are paying for everything and you want your wedding to be beautiful. It would be a fun way to bond...perhaps you could even invite your older sister along. Let them know that if your sister cannot perform the duties expected of her then you will need to find someone else for this role.
2007-02-21 10:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you sat your older sister down and explained to her how you are feeling? Maybe she is jealous of you.There is nothing wrong with everyones hair being the same. Offer to pay to have your little sisters hair done. Maybe your older sister doesn't have the finances for that.
2007-02-21 10:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what your going through. Its not just a hair issue its bonding with your girls and thanking them for being there for you. Its your sister also, I dont understand why she wouldn't be able to spend the night with you. I would explain to your older sister that you dont want your lil sis to miss out.
2007-02-21 10:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you want all of the girls to have their hair exactly the same, then YOU need to pay for it. You cannot expect your gals to fork over the money for a hairstyle and not let them get their hair done the same way.
Explain to your big sis that you'll pick up the girl in the morning, take her the hair appointment, and pay for it. The sis will have no reason to complain about that.
2007-02-21 10:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to talk to your sister and let her know how important it is for this to be perfect. I don't think it is rite for her to control her that much when it comes to family. Maybe if you tell her that you will pay for her to get her hair done and that it is what you want she will let it go. Also maybe if you tell her this is a once in a life time experience and want it this way she will understand. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-21 10:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this about HAIR?
I'd hate to hear what your serious arguements are like.
There's something much deeper going on here.
13 is a bit young for a maid of honor, but it's YOUR wedding. That's the operative word "YOUR" wedding. You need to kindly, calmly drill that into your older sister.
If she still refuses, FORGET IT, and get on with the vows.
How much you bet older sis will wear white?
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2007-02-21 10:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Icteridae 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would sit down with your older sister and be like LOOK- I really need it to be done this way for my wedding. Everything will be paid for... ect...
Maybe your older sister is jealous she is not in the wedding??
2007-02-21 10:12:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just sit little sister down and you say, "This is the way it's going to be. It's an honer to be in someone's wedding and if you refuse to do what I tell you, you are out!" Simple as that.
2007-02-21 10:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋