Guy left a note on my car...is he a weirdo or simply shy?

Question

I went out to walk my dog later this morning and was glancing at my car as I walked along. I noticed a piece of some white sticking out of the door. Thinking it was something caught in the car, I snatched it up and realized it was a note that has been soaked by the rain during the morning hours.

It says:
"Hey---What's up i just wanted to say i think u are so pretty, and would like 2 meet u sometime if u want, not bein creepy or notin well, maybe talk to 2 you later."
Mitch
555-555-5555 (real number here)
I live across da street."

I'm not that impressed with Mitch's grammar, spelling, and punctuation; however, I realize lots of people aren't English freaks like me.

Is this creepy? Yes, a little. For all I know, this dude could be peering into my apartment with a telescope, watching my every move. I go outside to take my dog out in my pajamas sometimes. And sometimes I leave the door unlocked, too. Won't be doing that anymore!

I'm just so clueless about this...HELP!

Great responses so far. I'm not going to call the dude. I would rather he "bump" into me as well if interested in getting to know me.

I will keep my partially closed, too and lock my door from now on.

I will also dig out my pepper spray from the back of my car. Take it with me when I go out with the dog at night.

I live in an apartment complex by the way.

And I think I will try to get the scoop on this Mr. Mitch.

That isn't his real phone number people! It's the movie-way of doing phone numbers.

I'm not cruel. I wouldn't want my number out on the web either.

Talked to apartment management and there is no record of a Mitch in the buildings across from me. Guy could go by a different name though. At least they are now aware of this.

Sent emails to my father and male neighbor friend. Friend agrees that the dude has been watching me and warns me to be careful.

Dad will probably say the same thing. I've got my pepper spray and I know how to use it.

I'd rather have a gun though. LOL. It'd make me feel safer at night.

Answer 1

It is not just creepy, also controlling and rude and assumes you are "easy" because he thinks he he tells you that you are pretty you will jumping all over at the chance to want to call a guy you have never met.

Second red flag is to state "not bein creepy or nothin" which indicates even he thinks it is creepy to be doing it, but trying to convince you it isn't by denying it up front. (Kind of like a guy saying you can't prove that he cheated...usually a red flag that he did cheat, just thinks you can't prove it).

I would ignore it but be cautious when coming home and don't take you dog out in pj's anymore...he may be watching. If he really wants to meet you, he will make the effort to approach you and you will be able to get a read on him whether or not you want to have a conversation with him or just tell him you are not interested or some other excuse to get away from him.

As you live in apartment complex, if you get another note on your car, I would let the apartment manager know what is going on even if you don't want them to intervene at this point and find out if they have received any other complaints on him from other women (they may not tell you that information, but it never hurts to ask).

Answer 2

Sorry to say - creepy from my own experience.
If he liked you so much -hed just bump into you.
I suggest inviting a male friend over, ordering some new blinds.
Give some insuation that you have a boyfriend - and make yourself scarce - park somewhere else, behind the building and come around.
How long have you lived there?
How old is Mitch? Most guys approach woman if they are interested.
Like hey nice dog.

And normally would you write a letter and say Im not a stalker? weird and I have seen it before.

Talk to some of your neighbors too - get the 411 on him and let them know what he did. No big deal, if he doesnt start acting weird.
Plus if you are a single chic living alone- im sure he knows that by now.

Answer 3

I think he's just shy... You never know. I would call from a blocked number if your that scared about it. It's just a phone call. It's not like he's coming over for dinner or anything. Take a chance, live a little. Not everyone out there is a creep...

Answer 4

Use your gut feeling if it doen't feel good pass it.Maybe talk sometime if he sees you out. Your call.Get a can of defence spray an don't leave home with out it.I carry more. In this day an age there a some real creeps out there . Be safe

Answer 5

if he's lived across the street, but you've never met him before.. don't call him =\ you should only get to know him if you happen to get to know him better by CHANCE. i think that the thought of leaving a note would have been cute if it had been someone you at least knew.. but you don't even really know the guy and you're not particularly interested him. so just ignore it!and lock your doors!

Answer 6

1. Good move on posting the guys real number, I'm sure he really appreciates it.

2. He could just be shy and did not know how to approach you. How creepy do you think it would be if he walked up to you while you were walking the dog and told you this?

3. Talk to him, see if you like the guy, if not just tell him your not interested. Honesty is always the best policy.

Answer 7

Some of us are shy, and that may be his way of breaking the ice. It's hard on the ego to get turned down after asking somebody out. I'ld wait to see what happens next.

Answer 8

DONT EVER LEAVE YOUR DOOR UNLOCKED!! AND GET DRESSED BEFORE GOING OUTSIDE!! SOUND'S A LITTLE CREEPY TO ME BECAUSE FOR THE FACT THAT HE WASN'T POLITE ENOUGHT TO CONFRONT YOU IN PERSON! SHY OR NO SHY HAVE SOME MANNER'S!!

Answer 9

He's most likely just shy. However, I wouldn't invite him over or meet at his house. If you do decide to call him, meet him in a public place. If he creeps you out, you can always avoid him.

Answer 10

Creepy. If nothing else he has low self-esteem because he didn't have the nerve to just come talk to you. At the worst, he's a stalker. Stay away either way!