Pros for head table: Get to sit with our wedding party, not isolated from guests and other tables, is the accepted traditional way
Cons for head table: Our wedding party will be separated from their dates, parents/family will feel left out at another table, most of the head table will be empty due to us travelling around the room and wedding party going to be with dates (I've seen this happen at other weddings)
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Pros for sweetheart table: Will allow wedding party to sit with their dates, give bride & groom time with each other and their DINNER!, can be empty so wedding couple can go table to table
Cons for sweetheart table: May be viewed as selfish, untraditional, and tacky, puts too much attention on couple, guests feel uncomfortable (these are the comments I've read about)
I want a sweetheart's table, nothing too elaborate...just a table for us to sit at. Please tell me your thoughts, suggestions, etc...want to know what you think.
2007-02-21 01:57:07 · 15 answers · asked by bubbadoy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We have no bridal party so we went for a sweetheart table. However, even if I had a wedding party I'd much rather have a sweetheart table. I've been in weddings & sat at the head table, leaving my date sitting alone (he knew basically no one) & honestly I felt bored most of the time. The parents are sitting at tables closest to ours. I don't think this is selfish or tacky at all. I wouldn't feel uncomfortable about it at all. I've been to more wedings with a traditional head table & been totally ignored by the bride & groom, who I was related to. That's much more uncomfortable.
2007-02-21 11:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last two weddings I attended had a variation of the sweetheart table. The bride and grooms parents sat with the bridal couple. It was actually really sweet. Of course the bride and groom didn't spend a lot of time there, but they got to eat and be surrounded by the people who love them most. And the parents got to say an intimate farewell. Of course, the parents got to wander the guest tables also. Whatever you choose will be what is right for you and it doesn't matter what others think. Remember that 25 years ago there was only the traditional head table so we didn't have options. It's nice that someone finally thought that the bridal party would like to be with their dates/guests also. Good luck to you in your upcoming marriage and God Bless.
2007-02-21 02:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It really depends on the size and structure of the place. We are having a sweet heart table because it would be too huge with 6 bridesmaids and groomsmen. Everyone I have talk to like the sweetheart table more because most people don't want to be watch while eating.... and would rather sit with their guest. I have never heard anyone veiwing it as being selfish!! I think only a self involved jerk would think that.... I mean who even really thinks about this stuff. I have seen and been in both and neither bothered or effected me. Who cares?? I am there to support the bride and groom and drink and dance. If a person is really insulted or puts that much thought into where they are sitting, they have personal problems... I mean I know my great Aunt who is 83 will comment, but she would anyways :)
2007-02-21 02:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm..i've never heard of a sweetheart table... but i like it, it sounds cute!! i'm sure your guests and wedding party will understand. or if yu wanted a head table, invite your parents and your wedding party's dates to sit with you as well. you could always just have your chairs decorated fancily, or something like that. and while you're eating, why would you be walking around!! the last wedding i went to, everyone was just as interested in eating as the couple!! there's plenty of time to talk later!! and as for a sweetheart table being selfish, i don't think it is, i think it'd be cute if you could find a way to elevate it above the other table....after all, the reason people are there is for you, right? so why not make yourselves tand out even more?!
2007-02-21 03:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts on a sweetheart table are:
Your bridal party spent money on clothes, parties, etc. They deserve some recognition!
Bride and Groom won't be eating, anyway...they'll be too busy (I hope) going from table to table. If you wait until after dinner to do this, everyone will be up and about, you'll miss a lot.
One suggestion I have it the two-tiered table. You and your spouse on one table, set above your bridal party's table.
Or, what I'm going to do: Instead of the traditional long head table, I'm going to have one regular table in the middle with two round tables on either side. This way, my bridal party will still be facing out to the crowd, but they will be able to see and talk to each other, too. Rather than having one long table where one side can't even see the other.
You can always put all the bridal party's dates/guests right next to the head table. That way, neither has to go far to talk to the other.
Best of luck
2007-02-21 02:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been at a head table, but I had a sweetheart table. There was so much going on that day, so many people pictures, things we had to do, having that table gave us ten minutes "alone" during the reception to eat our dinner and chit chat. No to mention, head tables often seem stretched out and look like the last supper to me. Our wedding party sat with their dates and family, I think that's the way to go.
2007-02-21 02:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the head table. Hopefully, you'll be sitting the bridal party's dates near people they would get along with. They'll survive for one meal. Everyone has the basic conversational skills to get through one meal.
And of course everyone leaves the head table once dinner is over! You're not expecting anyone to stay sitting there all night, are you? Even your guests will abandon their own tables, no matter where they are seated, to dance, drink, and mingle. Besides, its nice to show off the whole bridal party in their finery.
I don't like sweetheart tables. I've seen it done once, and it had a very uppity feel.
2007-02-21 02:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congrats. I am getting married in Sep and we are choosing a head table. Look - everyone only has to sit at the head table while they scarf down their dinner, after that, the party is on and everyone will be milling around and dancing - so will you - so there really is no point to a sweetheart table, because you will only have that time to eat and then you will be up and doing things as well. Just sit at the head table - quickly eat dinner - and get your party on. Don't worry about anyone else except u.
2007-02-21 02:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by Robby's Girl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
go with the sweethearts table. In most cases, you'll be up and mingling and talking with your guests anyways. with the head table, i know from experience that it is VERY awkward for the dates of the bridal party. I was in my brother's wedding and had to sit at the head table while he sat with the rest of my family and didn't really know anybody. i think its best for everybody to have the sweethearts table. i don't think it would be viewed as selfish, you just got married! you SHOULD enjoy some "alone" time
2007-02-21 02:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We aren't having a "sit down" meal at our wedding, just desserts. I really like the idea of a sweetheart table. I don't think it's tacky or selfish. I think it's important to have a few minutes together.
2007-02-21 02:48:48 · answer #10 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋