How do you know she is "walking all over you"?

Question

I have been dating a girl for about two years now and she is family oriented, hard working, loyal, helpful, and morally good. The only thing is we fight over a lot of things, and sometimes her anger will cause her to hurt people. I noticed that she likes to force me into her religious belief, not to talk with others often, do what is convenient for her, and ideally in her world-take care of everything and pay for everything kind of mind set. Is this wrong? Is she being bossy, or am I just not doing the right thing? Or is it that I am blinded to do things she desires? Please help

Answer 1

She sounds like a really strong-willed, controlling person. She kind of reminds me of myself a little bit, but I don't get angry, and I don't hurt people.
For me, when I'm in charge or think I'm in charge of a situation, it's the easiest for someone to either go along with what I think is right, or tell me intelligently why I should change. It's possible she doesn't know you feel like you're being walked over. She probably doesn't mean it that way---she's just that kind of person. I think the best think to do is to ask her out to coffee or something and talk to her about it in a non-confrontational way. Focus on telling her your feelings toward how she acts rather than focusing on her faults. And then try to meet in the middle on a few of your conflicts (like the one you listed). Chances are, she has a reason behind what she does, no matter how strange the thing she does might seem.

Answer 2

I think you need to sit down and make a scorecard. What do you do for her, what does she do for you. It should work out evenly. Your mate should be your partner in life, you should be a team with common goals. If you are just her unpaid employee, what kind of partnership is that?

Women will let you do all these things for them, and then by doing these things you lose respect. They think your time is worthless if you are willing to spend it all on them. If you are not so free with your assistance, she will complain, but will respect you more in the end.

Answer 3

your girlfriend is being bossy, controlling and it will eventually ruin your relationship. Try talking to her about your concerns and help her in whatever way you can to assist her to change. Remember you cannot change another person, you can only change yourself.

Set out some things that she could possibly do differently and help her to achieve those outcomes.

Simply put work with her but she has to want to change...

Answer 4

First of all.. if you have a loved one .. they wouldnt force you to do something you dont belive in or want to do.. You really have to look down deep inside and discover how you really feel about her and your relationship... if you aren't happy then maybe its time you guys go your seperate ways.. You dont want to be with someone who is constantly forcing you do to things.. and possibly even taking advantage of you..

Answer 5

I think that relationships are all about compromise! She should be able to meet you in the middle about most things. It should not be her way or nothing.

If you truly love her, maybe you could discuss it and ty to work something out!

Answer 6

If she yells at you to do something or behave a certain way (and you do), but you notice her acting and behaving or doing the thing she told you not to do, and when you confront her and call her out on it, she just laughs.

Then she is walking all over you.

Answer 7

sounds like you have a monster on your hands. she is rude, bossy, and selfish. you need to find someone who will appreciate what you can do for her!

Answer 8

if you are asking that question you already know.