My daughter in law is a control freak and will not let me spend time with my grand children. Does anybody have any advice for things I can do to do this? Thanks
2007-02-21 01:35:37 · 10 answers · asked by reginasob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not sure this is what you want to hear but: change your attitude about her first. Maybe not a control freak but a concerned mother who cares about her kids.Her kids, her rules. You had your turn already. The best way is to become closer to her and to agree with her terms.Be very supportive of her & compliment her as much as possible. No negative-not even to your son! She has her hands full, so your help should be important. She has to think of you as being sympathetic. You can only change your behavior-not hers. No critical remarks about her to anyone,please. Ask her opinion before gifts,activities or anything else involving HER children, then follow it. The road to your Grandchildren is through HER,plan accordingly.
2007-02-21 01:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by life coach 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can just suck it up and do things with your daughter in law and the grand kids, plan family outings for all of you, it could work. Also, try talking to your son and see what he says, don't call your her a control freak to you son, it may make him angry.
2007-02-21 01:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that there is more to this story than just your DIL is a control freak. My MIL thinks I am a control freak but the fact of the matter is that she doesn't follow the rules that my husband and I set for our child. My MIL is not allowed to have our daughter for the day for alone time anymore but she is allowed to come over to see her while me or my husband is present in the house.
Compromise is a great tool for both sides involved. She doesn't know how you feel until you tell her and vis versa. Maybe you, your son and your DIL need to talk calmly and come to a compromise.
2007-02-21 02:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by snugglesrn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try being nice to her and not calling her names like control freak. Remember she is the mother and your son is the father--they are both making the decisions on their children's lives. Try being nice and maybe they will have you over more to play with the kids. Don't be the crazy mother-in-law!!!
2007-02-21 01:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by boohoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try sitting down with her and your son and talking about the fact that you want to see your grandkids. if she has rules for the children, then out of respect you should follow them. try to explain that you want to be involved< i still talk to my grandma once a week! and she is 86> i believe it is importaint to have a relationship with grandparents. Good luck!
2007-02-21 01:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Search yourself, why is your daughter in law not allowing you time with her children. Then make amends.
2007-02-21 01:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh, What about your SON??? Is he sitting back and letting his wife dictate this madness?
2007-02-21 02:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your son.
2007-02-21 01:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a heart attack.
2007-02-21 01:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by JAMES 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS FINE THEY ARE HER KIDS
2007-02-21 01:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋