I broke up with my boyfriend about 2 months ago...our relationship lasted for 4 years. With him, i was happy but a lot of times he always blame me for everything, he cheated me twice by internet chatting, when hes mad, he shouts at me and he says things that really hurts my feelings. I got fed up and i gave up...since then he never stopped calling me, crying over the phone and asking me to forgive him for all the things he did that hurt me. In that 2 months time i started chatting to help me move on, I used myspace and i met a guy... we talked since then, and then we decided to meet in person. we had a date and everything went smoothly..he is so sweet and i thought he liked me for what i am coz i was a bit chubby. Then after we went home he started to change suddenly. I felt really sorry for myself. What should i do? should i go back to my ex-bf? or should i stay single and focus my attention to just my self and school. I need a serious advice... thank you...
2007-02-21 01:10:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're still schooling right now and of course, I'd most probably advice you to focus on yourself, improve what you need, do well in your education and plan your future. Don't let a dilemma between which boys to choose to affect whatever you're doing.
Back to your question, I'd say put yourself on hold for a while and look at the situation before moving on. Be smart and tell your ex-boyfriend that he should have cherish what he had before. Asking for forgiveness right now is no use. That sounds harsh but hey, you really don't want the same thing to happen again and you never know whether he's really going to change unless he proves to you and shows it to you. If you're willing to give him a short second chance to prove himself that he meant it.
It's up to you. You create your life, so you have to handle it well to make yourself happy.
As for the new guy, do the same thing too. Don't rush into a relationship too fast, know him more, understand what he's like then make your move to whether you still want to be with him or not.
Goodluck though and stay happy :)
2007-02-21 01:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by freshie_minth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being chubby does scare off some men, but others like a girl who is a bit chubby. That does not mean that you shouldn't lose weight; you definitely should. I'll give you a few good tips after I finish what I have to say. The ex boyfriend sounds like a typical jerk. It is VERY obvious that he has been, and always will, use you. DO NOT go back to a bad relationship.
Of course focusing on school is a good thing. (Sorry, but I'm a teacher and I know how important your education is.)
Now for the tips I mentioned.
Almost everyone thinks that their way of losing weight works. You can try a hundred diets and different things, but they never work. Why? Because you must do it your way.
First, find a sport or activity that you like that will help you get into shape. Bicycling, swimming and hiking are a few ones that you could think about. The most important thing is that you like to do it. It will NEVER work unless you like it.
The same goes for diets. Find food that you like, but is also healthy. Unless you are eating the food you like, you will never lose weight.
Good luck. And don't settle for anyone except for the one you really love.
2007-02-21 01:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand where you are coming from. I have been in your shoes a many of times. The thing that you have to focus on is simple but complicated at the same time.. You must always follow your heart and go to the things that will make you happy. If you are in a situation that you don't feel comfortable in. It will only hurt you in the long run. IF you really care for your ex try it again, but be honest with him and yourself and say up front what you expect out of the relationship. Tell him what will make you happy and work to be happy because you deserve all the happiness your heart can hold. Just remember follow your heart and be true to yourself. Everything will work out for you if you are. Hop my advice helps out some... Good Luck!!!
2007-02-21 01:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by michellemanus21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, gosh, youthful love. i'm so satisfied I basically could cope with that as a parent. From this mom's point of view, call her up and ask if she could be prepared to fulfill you at a independent place (park, sea coast, McDonald's). Then, basically talk and hear one yet another without interrupting. enable her be attentive to precisely what you're thinking and how you experience. If she isn't agreeable to fulfill, or if issues are actually not resolved when you meet, it's time to easily shrink the binds, and want her nicely. At sixteen, she nonetheless needs to advance up and learn who she is (and, to be truthful, so do you at 18). good success, and hugest hugs! this is no longer ordinary dealing with a broken coronary heart.
2016-10-02 12:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by dorais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice to you is to be yourself. Chubby? What's that? Why does that matter? You shouldn't change for ANYONE else. Guys are stupid. Guys will always be stupid. Girls are super. You have to be yourself, and love yourself, and get over this STUPID GUY. You don't need him. Focus on taking care of yourself, and excelling in school. That's the most important thing for you to do! Move on, and let yourself be happy. And don't put yourself down. There's someone out there for everyone. You'll find him. Remember....****GIRL POWER!!!!****
2007-02-21 01:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on yourself and your goals, dreams and aspirations. Forget these guys, they are not doing you any good and never will. Guys on internet says all the right things just to get a girl, but then they are never right. So be happy with who you are as a person and do what is right for you.
2007-02-21 01:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop dating for a while and ignore your ex cause he dont love you....i think you should take a brake, clear your mind and focus on yourself and your education and get your confidence back and then u focus and finding the right person cause the only thing a man here her to do is to hurt woman and to get what they want you dont need a man to make you happy
2007-02-21 01:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolit B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thnk, personally, that you should spend time focusing on yourself...
it seems to me like for the last three years, you havnt done anything for yourself
its all been about guys
for once, hun, i think you should take a little time off of the relationship road, and just pamper yourself....
do all of the things that you have wanted to do for a long time...
after, when you feel like you have had enough of a vacation, go back to dating, but remember that u should find a man that appreciates u...not like your ex
good luck hun!
2007-02-21 01:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by x0 swim chick 0x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would forget about the bf that was mean to you and focus on your self, If he really cared for you he would'nt treat you like that.
2007-02-21 01:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by carolineloveslucas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should focus on school and yourself. you can go out and have a good time with friends but boyfriends will tie you down emotionally.
i wouldnt go back to your old boyfriend, just move on with your life.
2007-02-21 01:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋