I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now, but the only problem is when i met him he already had a girlfriend and also two kids. For the last couple of months he has been lieing to me telling me they were over and that he wanted me. But a couple of days ago his so called girlfriend that he was with before me rang my phone so i asked questions for example if they were together an had they slept together and she told me different to what he told me. For the last couple of months he have been sleeping with me and also sleeping with her. But he had ended it with her yesterday and told her he wanted to be with me. So i asked him if we are going to start fresh i want sum answers so i asked him if he as back with her when he told me he wasn't an he said yes, i asked had he slept with her behind my back an he said yes to that. Is there any1 that can tell me what to do cauz i cant find the answers. plz
2007-02-21 00:56:46 · 30 answers · asked by ABBY X 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont stay with the lying cheating scumbag ratbag.
2007-02-24 22:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl u need to leave him. he is no good for u. U can't let him keep his cake and have his icing to. Its obvious that he doesn't respect u or really care about u b/c if he did he wouldnt lie and cheat. U dont' need that in ur life. If u stay with him u will only get more hurt. He is not going to leave her alone b/c they have kids together. So its just best if u leave and find u a man who will treat u right and want lie and cheat on u. I have been through this before and i know what happends if u stay. Don't be a fool like me leave that cheating bastard and get on with u life. I know u are hurting right now but in time u will get over it. U just have to pick the pieces up glue them back together and move on. I know its easier said then done but thats what u have to do. Good luck. but whatever u do don't keep going out with him and sleeping with him the more u allow him to do that the more he will and probably with other girls as well.
2007-02-21 01:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is the case of a person who wants to have it all. If he can maintain a relationship with two women, plus the children, and lie about it for so long...
I think this male spells trouble, because he's good at what he does, and therefore has no real reason to stop doing it, ever. I'm a firm believer that sometimes accidents happen, temptation, a one night affair -- that can be worked through and gotten over. But systematic lying is a sign of a lack of respect and true caring about either of the women he was with... not good traits to base a lasting relationship on.
2007-02-21 01:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hes told you the answers.... yes he was with her and you at the same time and yes he was sleeping with her which means cheating on you. You should definaltey not take this guy back, he is a player and a liar and you dont need to be with some1 like that do you. Find some1 who respects women and treats them kindly not how he wants to! xx
2007-02-21 01:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat. How the hell you can ever trust this guy is beyond me. He has lied through his teeth to everyone and believe it or not he's had his cake and is well and truly eating it. Two women fighting over him, no way, move on. You can do better than some a*** who finds it acceptable to treat women this way.
2007-02-21 01:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lost complete sympathy for you when you said "when I met him he already had a girlfriend and two kids".
You should have steered well clear and looked for somebody who was available instead of wrecking a family.
He is not cheating on you, he is cheating on his girlfriend WITH you.
Hopefully you would have learned your lesson and steer clear of unavailable guys in future. Now the other woman is going to end up a single mum and it is all your fault.
2007-02-21 01:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry hon but you should have realised what he was like, if he did it to her hes more than likely to have done it to you. Save yourself the heartache and get out now, hes not worth it and didnt think too much about the kids either. Find urself someone new and learn a lesson dont touch what belongs to someone else. How would you like it.
2007-02-21 03:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is only one solution to someone cheating, leave them and don't look back.
Even if he breaks it off with his ex and comes back to you, can you honestly say you'll be able to trust his word in the future.
Get all your things together and leave immediately. If he wants to talk about the situation, do things on your terms and don't take any rubbish from him!
He cannot keep you both stringing along
2007-02-21 01:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by The Overfiend 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason you want to have this guy as a boyfriend is.......???
The guy has 2 kids with another woman and he's been sleeping with you and her. If I were you (which I'm glad I'm not since I don't think I could be as dumb as you even when I'm asleep) I'd head to the nearest hospital and check for VD, then break up with the looser.
2007-02-21 01:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok i know most people would say get rid of him i don't no wot i would do if my bf was cheating on me, i think just have a bit of a breather have time to think about wot u really want and if u think ur relationship could work after all this? could u really trust him again ? sumtimes i really hate men they have no idea what they put us throu wen they cheat. I've been cheated on wen i was 16 i gave him a second chance and he blew it again i never went back .good luck hopefully he'll realise he's being a fool!!
2007-02-21 01:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
DUMP HIM. I know that this isn't what you think you would want. But trust me, if he is willing to cheat on her, then he is willing to cheat on you. It's a drama-fest with this guy. He's lying to you before he's even actually WITH you. He sounds like a guy that needs to grow up. A friend of mine has been experiencing a similar situation with her husband. She wishes she would have dumped him 3 years ago. It takes strength which I am sure you've got.
2007-02-21 01:04:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋