At the time I was still in shock over the break up,and feeling low in myself. The new guy was asking me everyday since how I was feeling and my ex hasn't even made contact with me again. I think he expected that I would turn up outside his house or something. Although I was heart broken, I was strong. I don't think he will get in touch with me now. I am meeting the new guy again on Thurs.I am nervous as I think he is cute. He has been hinting that he had nothing serious recently with a girl and that every cloud has a silver lining that I broke up with my ex and met him. He has also text me some really nice texts hoping I am ok,I think that is sweet.
I am wondering how to proceed at the next coffee (not) meeting!
Any advice?
2007-02-21 00:46:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am the type of person who gets attached , and since meeting him, I realise I really like him. He called to see me the next day agin, for coffee (but we didn't have coffee...) I was so upset and hurt that day that he may have felt I must have really loved my boyfriend. I am almost back to myself now though, and do like this guy, but just afraid that it could all go horribly wrong and that I will be hurt again. I was with my ex for 18 mths and this guy has been asking me to go for coffee for 12 mths. Each time I refused etc. I knew I liked him and that I could mess up the relationship. Now that I was dumped, I had an opportunity to meet him. I am just afraid that I will be hurt again, so I am taking it slow. Any advice?
2007-02-21 00:56:59 · update #1
CAUTION! You previous relationship obviously was very special for you and you need time to mourn it and get over it. If you gloss over this period and get into another relationship, you risk hurting again because you still have unfinished business.
I suggest you take things easy and slow. You don't know this guy. He may be geniune or a predator taking advantage of your heart-broken state. During coffee, ask him about his interest and get to know him better. Don't be drawn to discussions about your ex or the break up. Focus the conversation on him and less on yourself. That way you get to know if he is BF material or not.
Goodluck.
2007-02-21 01:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by Delta O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all sounds rather pleasant. I think you are on the rebound though and women tend to act rashly under those circumstances (probably men do too). Take it slow with this new chap so you can be sure of how you feel. You wouldn't want to hurt him too? Kissing is okay though but sex is probably a rubbish idea. I would persuade him to do some proper dating too in public so that he can't get to you! It would also give you both time to get to know each other properly. If he really is genuine, he wont have a problem going back to the beginning and making a decent effort with you.
2007-02-21 00:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by cutburth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should Take things slowly. Its normal to be Heartbroken and finding someone new straight away, which later on turns out to be another heart break. Just Relax and take your time.
Tell you one thing once you are in this situation if some one says nice things and try to console you, you normally endup with having relation with that person. Which I think should be taken lightly for some time and then once you are fully satisfied then go for it.
2007-02-21 00:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Unknown Entity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your heart is broken that bad like you think you are. You get over him fast and move fast with the other boy. Oh!!! well that is life today, everything is moving so fast. It's probably not matter with this new one either. It will pass by you before you know it.
2007-02-21 00:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try actually going for coffee this time, I take it you didn't last time ?, then you can get to know each other, that will put cream in your coffee !!!
2007-02-21 00:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flow. Be yourself. But be careful, this guy could be using your "low time" as an opportunity to take advantage of you.
2007-02-21 00:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say is have fun...flirt a bit. don't worry about your ex he's a loser. he lost something another man can have and treasure....don't be nervous...this is what you do that i've always found fun....act innocent..i think guys tend to like that....don't talk about your ex to much that can get boring...you don't want to run this hottie away. !!
2007-02-21 00:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Asia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
text him back, and send a little coffee cup text message, along with some kiss xoxo message. When you see him, firstly thanks him for the moral support and everything blah blah balh
2007-02-21 00:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by Hershey's Kiss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do let him bring up your ex and you dont think about him, just think about you and him at the moment! Be a little kinky and "naughty"! JUST GET LOOSE!!!
2007-02-21 00:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by metter_gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋