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I run a homedaycare and have a few of my own children. I am an amazing caregiver however my problem is I don't care for myself the way that I should. Meaning, I often live on Coffee and Slim Fast while these kids get homecooked meals and fruits and veggies. I am always on the go. Now, I want to get myself a gym membership, but feel that the money should go for food for the kids, and what not.... why am I being so unreasonable.
2007-02-21 00:35:20 · 10 answers · asked by Java Queen 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am just like you. If someone gives me a gift of money or a gift certificate, I will use it for my kids. I feel guilty if I spend any money on me. It is irrational. My children have never gone without and if I spent money on me they still wouldn't go without. My husband doesn't have this problem. If he wants something, he goes out and he buys it. In a way I'm jealous of him and in a way I get mad at him because it is so easy for him.
I can't tell you the last time I bought anything for my self or did anything for myself. Everyone else comes first.
Even when I absolutely have to buy something for me I feel guilty. I wish I knew why. My husband will tell me to go out and buy myself new clothes or whatever, and I can't. Even if I do, a lot of times I end up returning it.
I'll be watching your answers. Hopefully they will help me too.
2007-02-21 02:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a unique perspective on some issues like this, but even in general, caregivers and new Moms are extremely busy people with no sleep and lots of stress. Knowing what I also know, I should add your stress levels are so gigantic that it is a wonder you are not residing in a psych wing of a hospital somewhere.
That being said, a lot of diet-related activites (reliance on coffee, sweets, convenience foods) does not relate to your overall health view but more about reacting to stress. You reach for something that is comfortable to you. I know you well enough to know you know what works for you health-wise and what does not - but in terms of your stress management, perhaps you might require some assistance or a change of pace in your life.
In any case, don't be too hard on yourself. If you feel that you should eat more fruits and veggies, then do so. If you feel that you are good to go for now, don't worry about "what you are doing to yourself," until that becomes your main priority.
Heaven knows I am no fitness or diet guru, ballooning the way I do, but consider some of the other factors of your life that contribute to your habits.
2007-02-21 10:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by David K (The Real One!) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think the exact same way as you. I let my health go for along time because I felt that I had to put EVERYTHING into my kids and family. I have learned the hard way that I have to take care of myself if I want to be here for my kids long into the future. I still take good care of my kids, but I also make sure that I take care of myself too. I am currently undergoing cardiac tests and it has scared me into thinking more into the future. I say go ahead and get the gym membership, if you have enough for food and things at the same time. It makes you feel great. I love to go and workout. It really lowers your stress levels and is so healthy for you. The better you feel, the better you can care for those children. Good luck!!!
2007-02-21 00:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a mom! lol I'm the same way. Look for a bargain on that membership so you don't feel as guilty. Or start running/walking at a nearby park. That way you get alone time and it's free. As far as food try to get yourself some nutritous snacks that are already prepared. Trust me the last thing you want to do is cook for yourself. You need to make sure you eat enough to maintain your energy levels otherwise you are going to run yourself to death.
2007-02-21 01:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by noey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart go get that membership. u deserve it. u have always made sure ur kids were taken care of so why not. and ur right if u dont take care of ur kids mother noone will. u gotta treat ur self once in awhile, otherwise ull have worse feelings creeping up on u and wont be able to handle it as easy as u should. u didnt state where dad is and its none of my business but if hes not around then i comend u even more. being a single mom is hard enough.
2007-02-21 01:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by mommie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So true, so true. If you have ever flown in an airplane with a child, the safety rule is "in case of emergency, place the oxygen mask on yourself before your child". If you don't take care of yourself no one will! You need to have a look at this website - it will change your life!
2007-02-21 01:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds right your priorities are where they should be on your kids but you should take time out just for you a gym membership would help you do this.
2007-02-21 00:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by wildinstinct 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do to your occupation as well as having your own children I am sure your parental obligation instinct is in full gear. A term refered to as" self caring " applies here. Don't feel guilty about taking care of yourself. Quality of life is important to your children and family.
2007-02-21 04:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should take care of your self too because u have the right to get rest and treat your self and look after your health i agree with u on u should get your kids food but say if your health condition will get bad and u won't be able to provide things they want so i say look after your self and kids
2007-02-21 01:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by demi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its because you are a wonderful person who cares for every one. we need more people like you in this world..
you really need to give your self the same kind of love you give others you deserve the best
thank you for being you.
2007-02-21 00:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by chris w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋