does it mean that im not ready for sex, if i want to have the lights out, i am 29 and have not had sex yet, but am thinking of it, no lights can be on though, is this a bad thing
2007-02-21 00:28:11 · 30 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No turn the lights out set back & get ready for the time of your life!!! Well I hope your partner is good.
2007-02-21 00:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jen,
I suggest lighting a candle and placing it across the room where it will cast more shadow than light. You will still be mostly in the dark, but it will set a really romantic scene and your man won't even notice that you have a preference for having sex in the dark. Now, when you are comfortable with a man (been having sex for a month or so) you should add more candles for a little more lighting, until you are more comfortable with having sex in brighter conditions. You really are missing some great body expressions as well as looks of pleasure from your man, and Jen, believe me wholeheartedly when I say this...if you are performing and pleasuring your man; after having sex for a month with him, he will be in love with your body, no matter what! Allowing him to finally get a glimpse; just a look at your breasts at first, then maybe get up from bed and run to the bathroom in the mornings, short looks will keep his attention and make him want to see more of the body he has fallen in love with. If you are serious about the relationship then don't hide the fact that you are shy. It will make him even more hot for you! If not, then find someone else....good luck!
2007-02-21 08:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tony H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 42 now and never had sex until i was 25, and im a guy, i enjoy lights on during sex its more of a turn on for me, as i can see what im doing, plus i love looking at my womans body during sex, but not all women are the same, do what ever makes you comfortable.
2007-02-21 08:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are ready man...you just are self-concious about being naked with the lights on. Don't worry, after a couple sessions and you boost your confidence you will want to have the lights on...use mirrors...use a camera...
You are still on the first step, and dude you have been ready for a while...just need to go out there and 'break the seal.'
2007-02-21 08:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all that means is you are self conscious. And I think everyone is their first time. If you are planning to have sex with this person more then once I am sure you won't have to have the lights off always. Just at the beginning until you get comfortable with your self. Good Luck, Go get um tiger.
2007-02-21 08:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by cgim05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Light ON or OFF, it will not effect you in the case, but also it will show up that you are not waisting your time, thinking in the light.
Try to forget it,, It does not work man , let her lead you to the right thing Both of you Wanna..
2007-02-21 08:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by sherif 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No a lot of people are like that....it makes everything more comfortable....if the lights are on then you have to worry about other stuff....if the lights are out you don't have anything to worry about but the person your with....don't be nervous either...its fun!
2007-02-21 08:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by ~J*me~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lights off or on doesnt mean that you are not ready for sex pal.Maybe it means that you are insecure by your body..You are not confident enought to show your body to partner.But oh who cares,do it in darkness if you want..just put some dim candle lights around :>
2007-02-21 08:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Angel_Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means your not comfortable with your self, if you really trust the person your with, it will fade. whether are not your ready or not is only the first question you need to ask. If you have waited this long, make it special, don't do it to get over with, and make sure this is the right guy/girl
2007-02-21 08:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nup is not a bad thing having light out, it makes you feel relax and comfortable
2007-02-21 10:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by jolijoli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋