I started talking to a guy online and we got on really well. He started flirting with me, messing around really. But some of the things he said were really nice and I started to like him as more than just a friend. I told him this and he felt the same. I know him in real life too, just don't see him around much. I asked for us to meet up and now he's saying he loves me and we could have a family together!! I'm a bit freaked out and I don't know what to say! What should I say without hurting his feelings?
2007-02-21 00:10:56 · 16 answers · asked by gemwi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I said what Gloria said but he's still saying it!
2007-02-21 00:14:14 · update #1
Usually it is nice to actually get to KNOW someone before you start a family. Back peddle, get the courtship going, then the other things follow, you are doing it the wrong way round.1!!
2007-02-21 00:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he planning on having an "on-line" family - cos thats a fairly safe game to play.
If I were you I would be running as fast as I could in the other direction. The poor lamb obviously has issues. Not being nasty - but is he a bit geeky or not had many girlfriends - I dont mean to sound horrid - but maybe he just doesn't know how to be around girls that fancy him - maybe he's not had to deal with feelings like this before.
If I were you try and find out a little more about him and only meet up if you feel comfortable.
Whatever your age is now, add 5 years and tell him thats how old you pictured yourself having children.....see how he reacts to that. you could decide from that how things will go.
2007-02-21 08:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him again and that you feel a little bit intimidated by his sudden rush.
Try to be very gentle, it could be that the 'problems' are his not yours. He may be very insecure(for reasons unrelated to you) and has become a little 'desperate' as his own emotions are being confused by outside issues.
It is possible that he is so delighted that a girl as lovely as you would even consider dating with him that he feels he has to express his gratitude by telling you he loves you , thinking that, that is what you would most want.
Clearly it isn't, but clearly you do like things about him, maybe he makes you laugh etc.
If you still want to meet with him perhaps you could make it more of a social occasion by bringing a girl friend and ask him to bring a friend as well. That way you are in company and it can stop the atmosphere getting to intense too quickly.
2007-02-21 08:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by noeusuperstate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know your age but am guessing 13 or 14 so you can tell the guy you have about 12 years or so before you even want to think about having a family. See if he wants to wait.
2007-02-21 08:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Freddie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just back off of him slowly and definitely no meeting...this guy has gotten obsessed and could turn into a very bad situation (sorry don't mean to scare you even more but you want the truth right..).
2007-02-21 08:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by tasgilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to take it slow, and that you can understand that he's excited and anxious to spend time with you, but he needs to slow it down or he'll ruin it. Be honest with him, and try not to be scared off by his behaviour - I'm not sure why a lot of guys are that way... We like to dive in the water before looking, I guess.
2007-02-21 08:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Spiderman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you would not mind having a family later on in life after be with someone for a long time and then ask if he would like to meet up somewere
2007-02-21 08:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you want to take it slow and actually meet up before you get serious. That way you can actually get to know the real him.
2007-02-21 08:13:35 · answer #8 · answered by Gloria B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would scare the hebejibies out of me too! Get to know the real him better and tell him you want to get to know eachother better before getting serious. Good luck! =)
2007-02-21 08:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him let him no how u feel. it would hurt him more in the long run if u didn't. a relationship should be built on trust. take it slow whats the rush?
2007-02-21 08:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋