Hi ,need help regarding my marriage to a hindu guy ,im a catholic ????

Question

vr friendly 4 the past 10 yeras n r planning to get married this year .but my fiance is a hindu n im a catholic ,my mom agreed to our marriage only coz i assured her that v will get married in the church too .i dont want my fiance to change his religion as a girl is supposed to change hers after marriage ,but v both respect each others religion ....n v want to keep both the flys happy by getting married both the ways in church as well as in the temple ....but i recently found out that if v wantto marry in the church v will have to give in writing that after marriage our kids will follow christianity ,is this right what the church is doing ,coz indirectly they r forcing the people to follow christianity ..does anyone has an idea as to what i can do so that there will b no probs later on ....as v both want our kids to b hindus later ,well it depends on them completely if they want to follow christianity later in their life ,n my fiance too has no objections to this ...can anyone help me

Answer 1

sex knows no religion!

Answer 2

My cousin and cousin in law are a Hindu-Cathloic copule and they are the most greatest and happest people I have ever known

They agreed to a Hindu wedding so that what they have but with Catholic/Christian wedding parts added in ... like having a minister making a speech and the exchange of rings. As well as having bridesmaids and groomsman and all that. It was a very nice wedding.

Try a different church or try to consider getting married in a nice resort or country club. They are forcing Christianity and that is not right!!! Or have two weddings! That would be nice!

BUT

Since both of you respect each others relegions ... when you have kids try to have them learn and respect both and other religions as well
Attend church services on Sundays and getting involved in church actives but still have them acknowledge Hinduism and the Hindu traditions ... they are a warm and welcoming religion. If you live by a Hindu temple have them also attend a service there or have a in home temple like many Hindus have and have them respects the Gods and Goddess and also attend Hindu festivals if you live in a big Hindu community like garba and raas. Also a few years ago I found out they have Hindu camps for kids and teens which seem really fun and a nice way to learn ... they can certainly attend those

There are many ways to go about this but I bet you want your kids to be well-rounded and respect news ideas and other types of groups and people so try to do the best you can and try to teach them both and other religions and acknowledge both and other religions as well.

Congrats on the Wedding
Good Luck with the rest of you life
I hope I have helped you out some

Answer 3

Well, that is a part of being married in the Catholic Church. I had to sign a paper saying the same thing as my fiance is not Catholic, but we intend on doing that.

It is not right to sign a paper saying you will raise you kids Catholic if you are not. You need to speak to a priest regarding your situation. Perhaps you can work something out and have the priest bless your wedding or do something that will honor your wedding and they way you want to raise your children.

Of course the church has a right to do this! We have Freedom of Religion here. A religion can't make you do anything, but similar religions get to have their own rules. Why would a church of any sort marry you if you are going to convert after the marriage, especially to something so radically different.

Answer 4

Why do you want to get married in the church anyway? If you want your kids to be Hindu I'm assuming that you agree with the Hindu religion and are going to become Hindu yourself. Marry in the same religion!!!!!!!!! Do not marry this guy thinking that you will change or convert him to become Catholic cuz it will never happen it will only cause problem after problem. Pick a religion and stay with it.
The church is absolutely fine in what they are doing. If you get married in that church you are assumed to be that religion and stay in that religion, if you don't want to be that religion, I don't suggest getting married there and signing the paper. You HAVE to choose one Catholic or Hindu? The religions are so different from one another that you can't possibly believe in both.

Answer 5

Try the Unitarian Universalist church. You can be a Hindu or a Christian. Everything is openly excepted. The young children's religious education is based on freedom of beliefs and letting children choose while teaching them about all types of religion. Good Luck. The UU church as most people call it is not that well known but they are all over. At least go down and take a look speak with the minister and see if is something you like.

Answer 6

First of all, I am not sure if he can be converted back to hinduism, if ever such a procedure exists. I havent lived in India since some time so no idea what the procedures are. Secondly, if you want him to 'convert' only for your family, then its very very unfair to him and you are compromising yourself ethically. I think this is the time for you to think deeply on why you would want to marry somebody against the wishes of your parents. A marriage is a deep bond which should last a lifetime and not just until you get your papers. Coming to your question about getting married under the SMA act, you should not have been married at the time of notification which u submit to the registrar (of marriages). Be aware that the registrar will publish a notice that the parties involved are to be married and any evidence he finds of prior marriage will nullify the marriage under the SMA act. So proceed carefully and if u do intend to marry this man, you are better off marrying under the SMA act instead of all the drama of a hindu rituals and such.

Answer 7

Let's see... You are marrying a Hindu, and plan to raise your children as Hindus, but want the Catholic church to change to suit you? Of course they are "forcing" Christianity. It's a Christian church!! If you are unwilling to promise to raise your children as Catholics, then you need to get married somewhere else. Perhaps, since neither of you is following your faiths very strictly, you should have a civil ceremony. There really is no way to arrange things so there will be no problems later. The best you can do is sit down before you get married, and decide how each of your faiths will be incorporated into your married life.

Answer 8

Try a different church, I've never heard of this before. And, a girl is definitely not supposed to change her religion after marriage. If you believe strongly in Christianity then continue to follow Christ. Respect his religion and beliefs as he respects yours. Your children should decide on their own. If you can't find a Catholic church, try talking to an Evangelical church... See what you can find out.

Hope all goes well, and congratulations! This is really something!! I highly respect and admire you both if you make this marriage work! Best wishes..!!!

Answer 9

This is exactly why people of different faiths should not marry.

You think it's tough now? JUST WAIT. It will only get worse.

Let me ask you this.... will you let your children choose whether or not to sit in their car seats? Whether or not to eat healthy food over junk food? Whether or not they should play in the middle of a freeway?

If you are a Catholic, you are bound by the marriage laws of the church, which state you will marry in the church and you will raise your children as Catholics. The Hindu faith is so completely different than the Catholic faith- how can you expect to reconcile them?

Obviously neither one of you feels your faith is an important enough part of your life to pass it along to your children. You act like- well, if they want it, they can have it.

You really need to look at that. Neither of you sounds mature enough to enter marriage.

Answer 10

technically... even if you don't marry in a church.. the religion of the mother is the religion of the children.. an archaic way of doing things.. but true. That's why in Germany during WW2, even though germans that were not practicing Jews were taken away and branded a jew.. their mothers were born jewish.

This is something you are going to have to sit down with your parents and work out between you., if you want your parents involved.

If you don't want to get married in the church, and the church is making you sign this document... then forget the church.

Answer 11

I don't think it is fair at all to sign something stating you will teach them and force them to follow Christianity.

Find another church that does not have that requirement, because this is the first time I've even heard of that.