my son is stuborn and naughty and does not listen to me at all but he listens to his father i want?

Question

him to be obedient and non rebelious he is only three years old so what should i do i really want him to be calm and quiet but i dont know how please help

Answer 1

Agree with above, but also remember...HE IS 3 YRs OLD. Don't expect to much. He's still a young child, and they get distracted easily. If you want something easy to control, put him up for adoption and get a plant.

Answer 2

Adopt the exact discipline structure that his father uses, and do not vary at all from it. Inconsistency is easily recognized by children, and he knows that he is in control. If what he is doing works, and what you are doing isn't, don't try to make your child change to fit your parenting style, you change to fit his needs.

At the same time, let the boy be a boy, don't make him live up to your expectations of how he is supposed to act. Ask his father what his expectations are for his son, and then try to adopt them.

Finally, make him feel important. 3 is old enough to have the desire to feel important. Direct him positively. Find something that you can lay a foundation for him to achieve good behavior, then build on that. If he is busy being "good", he won't have time to be "naughty".

Oh, and BTW, stubborn isn't always bad, just help him find a way to channel it.

Answer 3

It is good to have a high spirited child so try not to remove that completely, just get him to channel it .
Teach him to trade. Withhold the things he wants in exchange for good behavior. Do not get into an argument. You are the mother and the adult. There are some book s on parenting that give you very good tips.
Observe how his father deals with his behavior and copy that.
Calm and quiet may not be the words to describe this child so hope for those in your next one.

Answer 4

From a boys earliest age he almost instinctivly knows his mother is one he always comes to for comfort and security . The father's role is that of the strong background of low tolerance and little patience . Fathers somewhat take the backseat to the early years , and stay strong and consistent . Mothers tend to be the more patient and understanding parent, this allowing the child to feel he or she can push the boundries of good behavior. Myself a father of a 4 year old boy and one year old boy , see and hear the same story . Our children are not rebellious , they are just checking the perimeters of the ground rules both parents set.

Answer 5

Toddlers are such incredible creatures of change. One day, they like something. The next day, it's something else. The same goes for toddler behavior. Toddlers go through such intense developmental, emotional and physical changes in such short amounts of time. In addition, they are developing language and asserting their newfound independence. That's all well and good, but tyrant-like toddler behavior that may on occasion erupt from your Prince or Princess Charming is not.
Toddlers need heaps of affection and attention to encourage positive behavior and to redirect not-so-nice actions. When toddlers are doing something wrong, it is important for parents to acknowledge positive toddler behavior.Be specific in your praise. For example, say: "It's good that you and Jason are taking turns with your new Batman figure" rather than "You and Jason are playing nicely." Parents' comments and reinforcement are what help to teach a young kid the right toddler behavior. This, of course, may not always be possible and safety must always be the utmost concern. A parent's attention is the most powerful way to influence a toddler's behavior. Negative attention by a parent is sometimes preferred by a toddler than no attention. Keep this in mind when rewarding misbehaviors through attention. Instead, provide lots of hugs and praise for every positive toddler behavior.
Don't set your young one up to fail. Avoid errands when your kid is hungry or tired, if possible. Bedtime is a struggle for many toddlers because they lack physical and emotional self-control to balance their needs and wants. Parents must structure a daily and night-time routine that eliminates discussion and negotiation.
This effective toddler behavior tyrant tamer really does work. Experts recommend placing a toddler in time out until he is quiet for about three minutes. Avoid lecturing to your kid before or after time out. Parent comments should be limited to fewer than 10 words. "Madison, no biting. Sit in the chair now!"
I take it you are a stay at home Mum, because he listens to Dad and not you. I get that with my daughter. I stay home with her and I think she gets used to me and what I tell her all day and then when Dad comes home with his big voice, she will listen to him. I think she is more afraid of what he might do because she doesnt know. He isnt home all day with her and she is more willing to please him since she sees him less.
One last bit of wisdom. Toddler behavior (good, bad or otherwise) is a phase. With constant positive reinforcement and time, toddlers will be out of the terrible twos and threes and other typical toddler behaviors entirely and parents will be facing new challenges.

Answer 6

Try watching what his father does. He's apparently doing something you are not, because your child knows that he can't get away with misbehaving with him. Perhaps you need to be more assertive and consistent in your discipline.