I am an expressive person. I speak my mind openly and honestly. I also work on not attacking someone, speaking from the first person, "I" language. No name calling.
When there is a situation in which I get "charged" I react. It isn't always anger, that takes a lot for me. One example would be a professor saying she is giving a point on a quiz to the class, and then taking it back. My boyfriend is patient with me, and jokes that he can't imagine if I bottle things up.
I know I am not affecting myself socially... I have a wonderful family, boyfriend and tons of friends. I am a physical therapy student, I am very empathetic...
I have gotten better in that I will count to ten, take deep breaths, walk away... or tell the person that now is not the right time to be talking about this. I don't want to say something I regret.
However... there are people that can hold things in, and not react.
Any suggestions on working on this further? I am open to self work.
Thanks.
2007-02-20 23:41:59 · 4 answers · asked by LifeIsPassion 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I looked up link to the book suggested... I have no problems with being assertive. I am confident, assertive, outspoken person... no problems there. I do it in a respectful manner.
What I need help with is not being so reactive.
2007-02-20 23:56:14 · update #1
get the book The four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz , will help you how to react better in situations
2007-02-21 03:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by wyntur1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you would need to take an group, or classes on anger, and find out why you react this way, why you get so mad that you can not even talk about it at the time, cause you know being so mad that you can not talk about it at the time, is the same as stuffing it, and maybe somewhere in the pass you stuffed your feeling so deep, and long that you do not even remember it. So you really need to get to the root of this problem, before some day you will not be able to hold on to the control that you are holding on to right now.
2007-02-21 00:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE, the next time you blurt out too quickly...as soon as you realize what you have done...stop. and say something like, "I'm sorry, excuse me. I've got a habit of speaking too quickly. I'm really working to stop this." By then, they will probably say it's ok.
You will soon start catching yourself before you speak. You seem like your heart is in the right place.
2007-02-20 23:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by Barbra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read: Don't Say Yes When You Want To Say No.
2007-02-20 23:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋