Everytime i meet a guy he is interested briefly but then never calls me. I am intelligent and have a good heart. I am funny and have a interesting personality, i am not a clone. I am highly attractive. I am not easy. Im not desperate i wont just be with anyone, i have high standards. I refuse to settle for second best. Why cant i get a boyfriend?
2007-02-20 23:40:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hahaha no i definetley dont think im perfect. I was just giving a outlay of my personality and the things in myself i can see a man liking about me. If id been all down on myself everyone here would say i need more confidence!!
2007-02-21 00:03:34 · update #1
Hahaha no i definetley dont think im perfect. I was just giving a outlay of my personality and the things in myself i can see a man liking about me. If id been all down on myself everyone here would say i need more confidence!!
2007-02-21 00:03:41 · update #2
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Check this statement: "i have high standards. I refuse to settle for second best."
That's your answer. Men don't like to deal with high maintenance and excess BS, because they feel that if they go through all the meticulous tests that you'll put them through - you STILL may not choose them.
Plus, your standards may be unrealistic, superficial, and unfair. Men WILL have flaws - period. They may be good looking, but have jacked up feet. They may have a great job, but have body odor, etc...
So, be fair to yourself and allow your standards to MATURE. Don't settle, but adjust so that you are comfortable with their FLAWS. Seeing them on their best day is easy..
Good luck..............
2007-02-20 23:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't have much information, but maybe change where your looking and meeting guys.
Most guys, heck people in general, don't want to work for anything anymore. They don't want to take the time to get to know someone and build a relationship. As you can tell by some of the previous male posters, guys are just getting lazy, and are wanting something cheap and quick.
TV and media tells us we should hop in bed with every person we meet till we find that special one, and unfortunately a lot of people have swallowed that hook, line, and sinker.
Keep your standands high, don't settle for second best, and don't give yourself away to just any moron that comes along. Be strong. The right person will show up, just be patient.
If you don't have a boyfriend right now, just focus on making yourself better, and making your relationships with friends and family better.
There are good guys out there, they may be getting smaller in number, but they are there.
2007-02-21 07:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by SoundmanC 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your looking for love in all the wrong places. The one will come along and most likely when you least expect it. Keep in the same frame of mind and don't settle for second best. Just remember that when you set your standards high it does eliminate allot of prospects. You may want to give some a chance before deciding they are not worthy. They may surprise you once they get past the initial nervousness of a new relationship.
2007-02-21 07:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean. I KNOW I am the perfect chick. Good looking, got a brain, love sport, can fix a car. I think guys are intimidated. But at the same time, I wont pretend to be some bimbo just to pick up a guy. He has to like me for me. I'd suggest hanging out in better places. Maybe evn go for a slightly older guy. They seem to appreciate intelligence and beauty.
2007-02-21 07:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by chickyboo222 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You probably set yourself up to fail by remembering the past disappointments. Relax smile and laugh easily, be yourself, think to yourself if this works great, if not great too. When we are stressed and expecting something not to work even though we are smiling on the outside others can feel your energy and the tension you are holding. Its when you dont care if something works and enter into a relationship saying to yourself, if this works great if not I have found a new friend, then you will find love. When you say you have high standards what does that exactly mean to you? Does that mean he has to make so much, have this much education, drive the right car, belong to the proper blood line etc? Perhaps you are narrowing your choices down to just a few possibilities. Nevertheless,,relax and just have fun with your date, really listen when he talks. Ask him the right questions..all people love to talk about themselves. When you are sitting with him lightly touch his arm if you like him, it opens the barriers and relaxes him. Since you say you look good on the outside perhaps its what you are saying or not saying. Smile alot, listen alot, and be patient..you will find someone....
2007-02-21 07:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because the one who is right for you has not come along yet.
There are D-heads out there and you've just run into them.
Keep your standards high and keep swimmin...
Don't listen to the haters here. They don't understand confidence, high self-esteem, high standards. They probably don't feel good about themselves and it shows by some of their answers. You sound like a keeper for the right person.
2007-02-21 07:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to calm down about this question. Although you say you don't expect any of the things above, I have a feeling (as i'm a woman) that deep down you want to settle down, and have babies one day beause naturally your clock is ticking. But nobody's perfect if that's what you're looking for. There's one man, ugly, fat, but has a great heart and money, there's another guy like a bodyguard, and has got a protective mum, which would end up monster in law, or he runs after other girls' skirts.
If you relax your options of what type of a man you want, then I am sure lots of them will run after you. But if you scare them of what exactly you want, then no one will want to settle, you may be doing something in your conversations and they are freaking out..... think of yourself what type of things you're telling them. don't talk too much of your expectations in life, that is a turn off!
Relax, try not to analyze too much outside your heart and inside your heart. Find hobbies and if you meet any man, you are already yourself happy going to the gym, or art lessons, and if he is there as the Mr Right, he will be impressed that HE isn't the main reason for you living, infact you are independant, self confident and dinamic woman. He will run after you like a dog then! wof wof.. and you will realise not only one man, but lots of them will follow him... and you'll end up getting confused which one to choose.......
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-21 07:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its good to be confident and to love yourself for who you are and the way you are but i think your pushing it, no ones perfect and damn girl you sound perfect, maybe your high standards are getting you in trouble how about trying to talk to someone you find ok and a little attractive but someone you wouldnt usually go for obviously all the guys you have been picking are no good for you, try something different a different guy you wouldnt usually go for, no one settles for second best because the ones your picking arent getting you any where try something different get a new approach make sure they come to you and make first contact unless your 101% sure they are interested playing hard to get works to guys love trying for something they think they cant get.
2007-02-21 08:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sleeping with them? That usually cuts off any chance of developing a serious relationship with anyone.
Where are you meeting these guys? The pub? If you want to meet a guy looking for a relationship, you'll have to go where guys aren't looking just to pull.
2007-02-21 07:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by Wiseyngsoul 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Boy, you need to get yourself in check. There's nothing wrong with being confident that you're the best, but people tend to avoid such being when those confidence so obvious it's blinking red.
Relax. If you are so good, people will see it.
2007-02-21 07:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by Master M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋