should i have another baby?

Question

i was sixteen when i had my daughter! i think that i have been quite good mum learning from my misstakes when i could but i have been thinking about haveing a second child i am naw 22 and still with my daughters dad who i love very much! but should we have a second child are home life is good, were not rich but we have enought. at the moment i work part time and my partner works full time and my daughter is in school. but am i to young for a second child? shoud i waite? am i being selfish towards my daughter? what do you think

Answer 1

if you coped at 16 then you will certainly cope now that you are older, you seem to have a level head on your shoulders and seem very sensible so go with the flow and if it happens then congratulations all round, all the best and take care, some people just have one child after another and don`t know how to cope but you seem to have it all in perspective, good luck to you and i hope it all works out, xx

Answer 2

i don't think your being selfish at all in fact i think it would be a great idea, like you said you have learned from your mistakes your still with your daughters dad, in fact the fact you were 16 the first time and you managed to cope and thinking about it again is great in my opinion i think its easier second time around (you know what to do, you can learn from your mistakes, you know what did work and in my case i learned that half the stuff i done the first time was over the top in a to perfect paranoid way) Although i will say no matter what anybody tells you what they should thjink you should do remember only you and your partner can decide only yous know if its the right time (when is the right time though theres always something going on which can stop it from being the right time) let us know what you decide though

Answer 3

If you and your partner want a second child then go for it, Your not being selfish towards your daughter at all. i had my first at 17 and my second at 19 so 22 is not too young to have another child in my opinion.

Answer 4

I'm about 3 weeks away from having my first, and far from thinking about my second ... so unfortunately our situations are very different. If you're having doubts don't make a decision right away. See how you will feel in 6 months. You can always get pregnant again but once it happens you can't turn back.

Answer 5

I think that if you can afford to have another child without going on government assistance, then I'd say it would be fine. You are still with your original partner, so that's good. You should do what you feel is right for your family.

Answer 6

I say go for it. I had my son when 2 weeks after my 15th birth day. I had my next child 10 years later. Point is now you are young and it will be easier on u its a lot diffrent once u get older. And i always herd if u wait to afford a baby u will never get one. Best wishes. Hope this helped.

Answer 7

go 4 it your not 2 young at all I'm only 24 and got 1 baby@22months 2nd baby @ 8 months and 3 months pregnant with 3rd. when your 2nd is born your oldest will be at school so there will be plenty of time 4 u and the baby.

Answer 8

not at all i am in the same possition i am 21 and had my first when i was sixteen i have finished uni and have a decent job and my partner works. it waas harder last time to raise a child ur old enough go for it. i am 5 months preg now

Answer 9

i had my first son when i was 16 i then had my second son when i was 18.. i am now 21 and i couldn't be with out them. if you have enough money and you partner is feeling the same then it would be lovely for your daughter to have a baby brother or sister... good luck what ever this turns out to be..

Answer 10

I think you seem to have a good life with your partner and daughter so if you were looking to have another child this would be an optimum time.