Tell me, how am I supposed to deal with a girl who cheated with my boyfriend (on me), i forgave her and him, and still see her regularly, as she is part of the firendship circle, but now I have caught her talking behind my back, and pulling faces, and generally saying nasty things, i.e just being childish, but then being totally sweet infront of me and the boyfriend, making me out to be the nasty one? How do i get my boyfriend to see how nasty she actually is?
2007-02-20 23:11:33 · 10 answers · asked by Honey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, don't sweat it. Just be yourself and ignore her. Any attempt to make your clod of a boyfriend realize what should be obvious will backfire.
What goes around, comes around. Nastygirl must be real unhappy if the only way she can get her jollies is spreading manure. Let her stand in the mess she makes.
As far as "circle of friendship," you need to look up the definition of "friend" if your associates are listening to the fertilyzer nastygirl is broadcasting. It may be time to break out of that clique.
2007-02-20 23:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put ur bf aside... now, its all about the war between u and her.
being nice isnt going to save u from those devils. dun fight her but confront her (BUT NEVER ALONE). verify what she said with ur other friends and tell these friends about what she has been doing. tell ur friends to be there so that u can clear whatever misunderstanding as u still want her as a friend (well, this is just to make u become the nice lady here, would be great if u can force out some tears) make sure u r with this group of people when u confront her. dun try to cat fight but be sensible and talk like an adult.
tell her that u heard her saying this and that blah blah blah... then say that u want to know if she has said these about u cos these hurt u very much as u thought u can be friends with her despite the cheating case.
no matter what she has to say, the stand is clear. u r the forgiving and nice lady here and u r doing this merely to clear up any misunderstandings.... and remember, never ever raise ur voice no matter what she says....
if ur bf feels that she's right in this, then dump him.
2007-02-20 23:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really. The fact that she is talking about you behind your back and making you out to be the ***** shows to all your friends how stupid she is. No one likes a two-faced person. I would have dumped them both. If your boyfriend can't see how nasty she is it's because she's is playing him, If he is stupid enough to fall for it then thats his problem. The more you try and make him see, the more he'll see it in you. Just try and ignore this girl as much as possible. She seriously needs to grow up, and you are obviously the mature one for fogiving such a terrible deception from the both of them.
Good Luck xx
2007-02-20 23:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is easy. Let her be her. You cannot change her no matter how hard you try, and if your boyfriend cant see what she is doing, you should get rid of him too. Take the high road. Dont be nasty to anyone. Let her be childish, and soon she will lose her friends all by herself.
2007-02-20 23:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Freak Boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know someone like that it makes you sick, when someone gossips it makes others feel insecure they think well maybe she is doing the same to me. I dont, like her myself from what you sound she is the sort of person i would like to smack in the face, but i would not i would ignore her and not let her know i am bovered. She is jealous and insecure. Look if she was that great he would of stayed with her,
You dont, need him either she probably feels rejected cos he choose you. I would never do that to a mate go off with that bloke, if he does anything like that again get rid of him for good and stop being so nice and forgive but do not put up with crap or be a pushover. ignore her completely she will hate that more than anything expassilly if you do it in front of her mates she will look a fool believe me.
2007-02-20 23:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by denny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
number one if shes in your circle of friends you shouldnt have forgave her friends dont cross that boundarie and obviously if your bf is believing her over you be careful because there maybe something still going on and if not there are still feelings and confusion, beware you have been betrayed more than once and you cant keep going the way your going or other wise they will keep on walking all over you and you deserve better
2007-02-20 23:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still friends? Don't let him or her spoil your fun leaf him and get your self another guy then he will be sorry to believe this girl that is telling lies about you.
2007-02-21 00:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by sexybabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put a small voice recorder on another person (be sure its your friend) then let her ttalk to that girl (the one who is backbiting) and when she says something mean about you then,,,jakcpot..let your bf hear it..
2007-02-20 23:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by xpsihateyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait he cheated on you with her already, and they still hang out. Um...yeah why are you still in this relationship?
2007-02-20 23:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't, take the high road and let him figure it out on his own......
2007-02-20 23:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋