Should i break thing off with him?

Question

Me and My boyfriend have been going out for 4months, but loads of guys have been asking me out which makes me doubt if my boyfriend is the right one for me. everytime me and my boyfriend cuddle it doesnt feel the same as it did the first few months we have been going out but everytime i think about dumping him i feel like im giving something great up? What should i do

Answer 1

Dump him and go out with other guys..you should be dating lots of guys...stick with one guy when you are older.

Answer 2

well if you're already thinking about other people, but no one in particular, then maybe you're not after a relationship. Seriously, 4months.. i spose in reality to a lot of people that is like a really long time, so i guess you have no idea what a relationship is.
If it's been 4months then why not stick it out a little longer otherwise you're just screwing with this guy unles he is just using you.
Relationships tend to settle down after a while, after the thrill of being with someone that is new becomes... old... and comfortable, or you reliase it's not going to work, knowing the person better, believing your relationship wont last.. burnt toast.
So if you think you'd be giving up something great then why are you thinking about other offers. I mean if those other offers are any more serious than the one you currently are engaged in then they will wait. I know people can't wait forever, but that's just it.
Maybe you need to find some other way of sharing that feeling. Nothing ever feels the same, i get that you mean that feeling, but nothing lasts, and no too cuddles? are the same, even if you think it feels the same, it's different. But if you dont want to find things that make you feel that way then why be unhappy with him. But it's not his fault if you don't try.
Still think you should talk to him abou tit if it's bothering you that much. But if you let him go then will you be thinking that you gave up the one person that would actually put up with your bad habits
LOL

Answer 3

Why are you considering breaking up with him exactly? You'll always get offers and find other people attractive. So will he. Doesn't mean that you love each other any less. People as a whole tend to want to find something better all the time. You want a better TV, better chairs, better everything. That does not exclude partners. You always think, "I think that guy/girl is better than the one I'm with." Maybe, but that guy/girl doesn't have anything built with you. Every relationship starts out hot and heavy. After a while, they all start to get a little dull and boring. It's up to you and your partner to spice things up a little every now and then. I don't think you really want to dump him. I think you just want that "new car smell" back.

Answer 4

well hun like many other things in life - we often have to initially give up something that we like to get something better - sure you'll miss him and be upset for a while - but the fact you're even considering possibilities with these other guys proves that hes not the one for you! dont let familiarlity breed contempt! The longer you stay with him the harder it will be to break away - so I think from what you've said hes not the right guy for you and its not fair on him if you're thinking this way so its best allround to end it.
xx

Answer 5

You need to realise that your only wanting and thinking about other guys because theres a boundry between you and them, that your attached and their not and all you can think is would the grass be greener on the other side.. You only want them because you cant have them in nthe way that you are with someone, once you were on the other side rest asured the grass wouldn't be greener..

Cut the other guys off completely, ok they've boosted your ego and you know other people want you but realise that before all these other guys came you and your boyfriend had fire and passion.. cut them off and think why you love him to bits and what made you choose him.. everyone has their bad points but we all have our individual good points.. think whats makes you twinkle when you know hes coming to bed and remember that you love someone not for who they are but for what they make you feel when you with them..

good luck, b x

Answer 6

Grow up and make a decision - your question is contradictory - doesn't feel the same - giving up something great - what nonsense! If it's not good - then get out of it - if it is good - carry on - you are trying to ask us for justification for what you are going to do - it's your choice! You are not mature enough for a start to deal with the every day things that mature people deal with

Answer 7

does it not feel the same wen u cuddle coz you know other men are intrested in you? to me it sounds like you would love to be able to say yes to those men that are asking you out, i think you should break it off, this obviously hasnt got a future if u are feeling like this within 4 months, that should be an amazing time in an relationship you should be excited at this stage.good luck

Answer 8

You need to give it more time - 4 months isn't very long.

I think the fact that your getting lots of attention from other men is making you doubt that you should be in a relationship at all.

Answer 9

I don't see why you should consider leaving a good relationships just because other opportunities present themselves. So what if other boys are after you, how does that affect a relationship between two people? It's not like a job, where you work happily until a better career move comes along. Or is it?

Answer 10

if u are with ur boyfriend, forget about the other guys asking u out. u've chosen to be with him for the moment, so put some time and effort into making it work. if after this it doesn't work, then u can leave him and go out with someone else. u will never know if he's the right one for u if u don't give it time.