I'm 2 months engaged to the girl of my dreams.. However, she got in touch with her ex(7 yrs ago) and wanted to call off this whole thing off as she said she wanted a real husband, and he's the one she has been searching for all this while..
He left him the last time as she feels he's too good for her at that time, when she was 21, and still naive. She got 1 guy after him and me initially. We've been together for 5 yrs + now and she recently confessed that she "tried" to love me all these while but can't go on cheating herself and feels that the one she's been truly searching for is that ex of hers.
I'm glad she's honest but extremely torn apart on the other.
Me:25 Her:27 Him:29
Love her or let her find her true love??
2007-02-20 22:22:44 · 17 answers · asked by Hatred 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Deal with it. Her hearts already spoken. Accept her decision because if she has "tried" to love you all this time and still can't, she never will. I'm sorry, but a woman's heart is a sensitive thing and even if we know we are making a bad choice, we have to know.
2007-02-21 02:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow her to make a decision...you or him. You cannot compromise forever.
Love is a strong feeling that bonds two people for helping each other to get over the bad moments in life. If she is not even sure that she loves you, than drop out. It's her decision whether to stay beside a man who doesn't love her or not. But if she chooses him, you wasted nothing at all, she did, because she would lose a man who really loved her.
I'm sorry for her if she chooses that.
Best of luck and look for a partner that corresponds to your feelings and that truly deserves your love!
2007-02-20 22:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by AnneMarie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 04:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too good for her. She's insecure and you need to find someone steadier. I'd never get over the "tried to love" you comment. Do you really want it in the back of your head that your wife just tries to love you? It's better to have heartbreak now and a happy life with someone else.
2007-02-20 22:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by eli 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let that girl go, she isn't really the girl of your dreams if you aren't the man in hers. You can't compete with memories from the past. She will not be truely happy with you, go out and find a girl who loves you just as much as you love her.
2007-02-20 22:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she doesn't have a clue what she wants. You sound like a nice fellow. Let her go. It will be tough and painful, but in the end it will be for the best.
You guys are on different pages in life and if you aren't on the same page then you shouldn't be together.
2007-02-21 06:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by amanda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go! She's too flightly and dishonest for you to find real love with. If she's been searching for her true love for the five years you've been together, she's going to keep searching after you're married. Not worth it.
2007-02-21 01:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out about her relationship with him. Is he even single?
Usually If you truly love a person, you would be able to let go if it was for the best, just like parents let their children go when they are old enough. I think you should sit her down and talk to her about this man. Explain that you are willing to let her go if she will be happier with him. Maybe he doesnt even love her. Maybe he is just her fantasy ' the one '. I know that she feels that he is the ONLY one she can be happy with..
Sit her down and talk. I hope you get through this.
Be a Man =)
2007-02-20 22:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by babycake 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you love someone, you would do anything to make that person happy, even it means you're not gonna be apart of it.
(I forgot when and who said this to me)
Also "try" doesn't mean "will", it will hurt you even more to know the person you love is not happy by your side, you would rather let her go and happy even it means with somebody else.
2007-02-21 01:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by ayashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if you really love someone, you will wish all the best for her and not force her to be with you when she doesn't love you. If I were in your shoe, I will give her my blessing and wish her all the best. There is no point in forcing someone to be with you when they don't even love you in the first place. It will create more misery between both of us
2007-02-20 23:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋