I have gone out with my girl friend for about 2 years.
Then What a world......!!!
Yesterday, she sent me an ultimatum on the phone.
"I can't stand you anymore, I wanna break up with you."
What do I have to do in this situation? I've never bothered her,
made her feel boring and broken into her private life.
I'm so ultra powerful depressed. now... I can't be over her. I can never so much as live my own life without her.
Would it be ok if I came to her, knelt down and asked her to forgive
me this time only?
Would it get through to her? If you think not, what would you do in this situation? I'm waiting for your deeply herated
answers. Thank you for reading.
2007-02-20 22:21:43 · 12 answers · asked by Fallen leaves 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should start with asking her why she made that decision and ask her if shes 100% sure thats what she want and if there is anything you could do that might change her mind, if she says there is nothing you can do you cant force her obviously she made her decision.
And dont say you cant live with out her because things like that make her feel like she has full power over you, you have to act like your getting on with your life and go out and do your thing moving on takes time getting over someone you loved takes time it doesnt go away over night, it seems like the end of the world now but in time you will realise that you have moved on and when you find someone else you will think the same about them, just remember this only makes you stronger and you will know how to deal with this problem if it would ever have to come around again.
i wish you all the best and i hope all goes well.
2007-02-20 22:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what it is about you that she can't stand (i.e. ask her).
If she has a case, and you think you can fix those things then say so and ask her to come back to confirm they are fixed.
If she does not have a case then the relationship was not working and she does not understand you.
If she won't tell you, then the relationship was not working because she is not willing to address problems.
If the relationship was not working, it still might be possible to fix it.
The kneeling down thing might work, but you have to find out what it is you are asking forgiveness for first. You can only use this once though, if she dumps you again either she genuinely can't stand you or it's a game which you don't want to play.
2007-02-20 22:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by lawomicron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey i am so sorry you are hurt.But You need to know what it is you did wrong before we can answer that properly.But if you don't know the answer and she wont tell you then you will have to deal with it as is,And the only way to deal with it is stay busy and give it time.I know that is not the answer that you wanted but there is no easy way to get through a broken heart.YOU can live your life without her ,it will get easier with time I promise.What do you have to apologize for.Sometimes relationships fall apart cause people grow apart and you shouldn't be sorry for that.Give it a day or two and try talking to her once more to get the answer you are looking for and if she doesn't then you have to find a way to move on.Good Luck!!!
2007-02-20 22:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of youself. Why would you want to be a girl who said this to you. She didn't say it out of anger during a fight, she just said it out of the blue which means she probably meant it. Sometimes it not that you really did anything to her, it's just that it's not meant to be between you and her and she's probably felt it for a while and just let it build up. However, she should not have broken it to you in this way. I'd say you just tell her that you're sorry she feels this way and if there is anything you can do to change her mind. Really comminucate with her and open up, both of you, and if there is a chance to save the relationship do it but if not and she still feels this way, you'll be okay. I'm sure you'll find a nice girl on down the road who respects you. I know it hurts but in time you'll just consider this a good learning experience for your next journey with someone new.
2007-02-20 22:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by AngieBaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heyyyyyyyy
you did nothing wrong to ask forgivness if u want ,go and ask her directly what is the matter and if you find that she loves someone else although u hav been togother then she doesn't deserve u and u better start to forget her and hav fun
2007-02-20 23:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by dodo r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya I'm Laura i know what girls are like they enjoy testing boys and making them fell crap if shes treating you like that you shouldn't grovel to her i know it must be hard if you really like her and would be hard to get over her but maybe she isn't worth it try talk to her and ask her why she feels like that girls have mood swings one day they'll really love some one and the next day they will be all down and low try talk to her as i said and see how she is feeling but is she just be's nasty and tells you to f**ck off then she isnt worth it
2007-02-20 22:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.M.G it means she doesnt want to see you any more ok so grow a spine learn how to walk and stop you insesent Blubring.
2007-02-20 23:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that doesn't sound like an ultimatum to me, sounds like she made the decision to break up with you......
You'll get over it and hopefully learn from it
2007-02-20 22:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Have some pride.
2007-02-20 22:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear..
see dear. your problem is very serious.
i think that she got another love instead of your. he may be more good than you.
so please. if you love her. than let her go.. .. let her live her life as her way..
your happines in her happines..
so. leave her..
2007-02-20 22:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Krunal B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋