My girlfrnd would just walk into the house and tune herself off. Appear to be annoyed. Goes to shower and sleep. The next morning, she would shower again, prepare herself for work, without a word and just jumps into my car and leave. This she would do for at least 2 day. When i ask her, Whats the matter? The answer is, nothing. How do you handle this? I suppose if there is something bothering her she must tell me. Sad, Sad situation.
2007-02-20 21:43:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all women are like this but I have definitely had enough similar experiences with friends to share your grief.
If her answer is 'nothing' then you need to figure out or guess what is wrong with her, like say; 'You seem to be detaching from me, are you upset with something that I have said or done'. I know it seems totally wanky, but she's obviously upset about something and wants you to be able to identify what is making her upset. Make sense?
You also need to be clear that you would really like to know and would like to know how to avoid/address the situation. And that since you care for her so much, it upsets you to see her upset.
Also, sometimes she will not want a solution. So if she says; 'Things are really hard at work at the moment', you shouldn't say 'Well, you need to quit and find another job'. It's important to girls that you are listening and are showing empathy to her situation, not necessarily coming up with solutions. For her, talking about it will make her feel a lot better about it and help her to feel closer to you.
I promise, not all girls are like this, but a lot of my friends are so I've got it down now. Usually you have to ask a few different questions to get to the actual issue.
Best of luck.
2007-02-20 21:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously there is something wrong. Who knows what it is and you won't either by the sound of it. Stop being Mr.Nice Guy. You get up in the morning and get ready and go. Tell her you need the car and she can sort out how to get to work. If she is going to act like that, she could at least tell you why.Make her cranky nd she just might spit out what the issue is.
2007-02-21 05:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by shes_apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it woman sometimes gets in this moods it doesnt mean that there has to been something wrong sometimes they just dont feel like seeing other people including the ones you love sometimes the girl just wants to be alone for no reason
Dont get worked up over this
2007-02-21 05:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how many girls would agree with me...but thats what i've observed...the more attention u pay to their sulkin, more they'll sulk!..lol...after all we are from venus..got to b different n mysterious...jokes apart....no doubt, there is something thats bothering her...maybe she found out something that she shouldn't have...u must have not disclosed some info to her which she got to know frm else where...possibilities are millions...either u keep askin her...pester her whats the matter or give her some time to get over her anger...n then talk to u..
by the way..is this the first time she's behavin so wierd?...if not..then u should know what would get her talking...
2007-02-21 05:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by close_in_destroy_everything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes most (not all) women are like this....something is obviously bothering her....she only says nothing because she feels like if you know her and love her you should be able to tell whats wrong with her without her having to tell you....i would say next time she acts like this make sure you make a sincere effort to find out what's wrong so she knows that you are concerened....yes i know it's ridiculous why can't she just tell you if somethings wrong? it's a girl thing! lol :)
2007-02-21 05:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by Amy Hizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eih i think there's really something wrong and something is going on her mind..just give space and show her that she can talk to about it anytime she feels like and whatever it is she can lean on you..hnm i think she's quite not sure if you could understand what's bothering her..better assure her..or maybe you also have to evaluate your relationship maybe that's bothering her and she doesn't know where to start..try to look at possibilities..and if ever you know her problem give her the moment to solve her on her on..have confidence in her..don't show her she's helpless..but if she needs you..be by her side...
2007-02-21 05:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by queen_maan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to sit down and talk to her. There is obviously something bothering her. Insist that she talk to you don't ask her what's wrong in passing. Women like to be heard, make yourself available to hear her.
Most women like caring and compassionate men, be that for her.
2007-02-21 05:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by MikaDaQT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have heard, yes, many are like this bud.
Sorry, it's just women for you.
I know, they will hurt you, right?
2007-02-21 05:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No .
I guess she needs time to tell u what it is that is really going on.
2007-02-21 06:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forget her and find a new girl friend from http://www.catchette.com. It is a free site!
Dont waste your life for others!
2007-02-21 05:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋