she refuses to go and sit with a teacher, for a few hours a week at a special place its hard work, i feel disguested by her behaviour and have had enough, if i ground her she climbs out the window and bangs all the time and makes my life hell. I have had enough now and asked the social worker to take her into care for a few weeks so i can have a break, i am getting very tired and depressed with it all
2007-02-20 21:11:59 · 15 answers · asked by denny 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
well she definitely needs help, but I dont think she'll get it by being shipped to a foster home...she needs lots and lots and lots of love and encouragement, and she needs to have FUN with you! Since you are her grandmother, you must not be too young so I can't blame you getting tired with this, as well as getting depressed--this is a tough situation. maybe get her tutoring, send her to a different school that works better for her (if there is one around and that you are able to), maybe get her some kind of mentor or "big sister"...hmm....I dunno, but I think the last thing you should do is ship her away, even if just for a few weeks. What a hard situation.....I'm not at expert, but do your research and try and figure out the best situation for her. ask her what she would like to do, and try and reason with her...good luck.
2007-02-20 21:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by christina rose 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that sense you have asked the social worker for help you have made a step in the right direction! Maybe you can get her placed into a group home for out of control teens. Some have on campus schooling because of the run away behavior you spoke of (climbing out the window) This is a very hard and tough love decision to make but sometimes a necessary one.I've been there and done that with my son, He is now 32 years old and even thou he didn't like it at the time he now says "Mom you saved my life!" I had a break down over it . I was even hospitalized. It was the hardest thing I ever did.But it was done out of love.Some kids have parents who don't care what kind of trouble their kids get into. You are a responsible Grandma, and I can tell that your Granddaughters behavior is tearing your heart out.Please don't let anyone put a guilt trip on you. This to shall pass I am sure that everything will work out for the best. Good luck!
2007-02-21 13:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like MISS is very unhappy. How come she isnt with her mum and dad.
Asking a social worker to take her into care is a cop out I am sorry.
HAVE you really looked and your granddaughers life from a childs point of view.
PERHAPS she has had enough of your nagging a pushing her. Have you given her time to grieve the loss of her parents.
Even if they arent dead she will still be grieving.
have you sat down and talked to her as if she was a person and not just a naughty girl.
I think that I am getting a view that she can not do anything right in your eyes and you are angry because at your time of life you should be without the responsiblity of this child.
I think that you need counselling then perhaps you can start work on her.
2007-02-20 21:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only imagine what you must be going through. She is very troubled and it may be that her parents aren't around. I don't know the situation there but, it's hard when a child doesn't have her mom or dad in their life. There are places you can send her. The Dr. Phil show has this place that they send kids with behavior problems that teaches them how to deal in society and they go to school there. They are rewarded for good behavior and disciplined for bad behavior, not corporal punishment. You could check out his web site and it should give a link to that place. Good luck and God bless. I hope it works out.
2007-02-20 21:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs support to save herself her own ordeals. Ironically it's a tough job. Ignoring for the moment can be a temporary solution.
Counselling can help.
2007-02-20 22:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by zerosopher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and speak to her. Give her attention when shes behaving herself, reward her for gd behaviour. When shes bad then ignore her, that way she knows shes not gettin any attention by doin bad things.
Teenagers crave for attention
2007-02-21 08:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by mandee_00 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT...first ask yourself What is your relationship like with her? Do you get along? Are you close? you need to first get her to trust you and you need to let her know that you understand what she's going thru and make sure you're giving enough attention to her and not other non-important things...
2007-02-20 21:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright you did the proper thing by having her removed immidiately! She does this because there is nothing she fears and believes she is invincible
now this is your fault as much as hers allow me to explain i have never has a child speak harsh or do what they chose to me! OH NO!
I WOULD BEAT THEM SO SERVERE THEY WOULD ALWAYS REMEMBER ME AND HAY RESPECT ME!
Also stop wining you are not a child hay she out your house -KEEP HER OUT! you speak of punishing her i would punish her alright you see the first time this happened you should have beat her so she know directly this is to never happen again NEVER!
2007-02-20 21:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by wise 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your question? The first part that has a question mark is a statement. And all the rest is just you letting everyone know your problems.
2007-02-20 21:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by JM 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't focus on the effects, focus on the source of the problem. Ask her friends maybe too, but don't make it obvious because she wouldn't like that.
2007-02-20 21:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Joshu@ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋