well does this happen as im my bf 1st gf and he like my 7th bf but he thinks im the one for him and im hoping he's right as i like him loads do people marry their first bf/gfs and do they work
2007-02-20 20:35:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is possible, but that's not the usual state! People usually want to have more than one relationships in order to get married, so as to be more experienced!
2007-02-20 20:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Roubini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetely it would work if the compatibility is there between you two....I mean both of you should have some things in common....The reason why many people fail in their first love due to incompatibility....One will be really blessed if he or she can marry the first love....
Just read the following example of what love really is....
"A lovely lesson for life!!!!
> A student asks a teacher: What is love?
> The teacher said: in order to answer your question, go to the
> paddy field and choose the biggest paddy and come back.
> But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot
> turn back to pick.
>
> The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one
> big paddy, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one
> later. Then he saw another bigger one... but may be there is
> an even bigger one waiting for him.
>
> Later, when he finished more than half of the paddy field, he
> start to realize that the paddy is not as big as the previous
> one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he
> regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty
> hand.
>
> The teacher told him, this is love... you keep looking for a
> better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss
> the person
>
>
>
>
> The student asked: What is marriage then?
> The teacher said: In order to answer your question, go to the
> corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back.
> But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot
> turn back to pick.
>
> The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful
> not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle
> of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel
> satisfied, and came back to the teacher.
>
> The teacher told him, this time you bring back a corn.... you
> look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe
> this is the best one you get.... this is marriage."
Having said all this there is a small catch....does he know that you had seven boy friends???? if the answer is yes, then there is something for you to think....coz generally any guy (specially a guy who havnt had an affair before) would prefer if he is the first love of his fiancee....so upto now if he hasnt make any issue regarding that, it seems to be that later also he may not make it an issue....
But, if he has a issue regarding that, then mostly it may continue even in the future....
I m telling this coz I m a guy like that....and I lost my first love coz I was teasing abt her x s and her crushes....
MAINLY, IF YOU HAVENT TOLD ABT YOUR X BFS , PLEASE DONT DO IT....ITS NOT THAT YOU ARE BEING UNTRUTHFUL, BUT YOU ARE DOING YOUR GUY A FAVOR....OTHERWISE, IT MAY KEEP BOTHERING HIS MIND....
ANYWAY I HOPE YOU WILL GET THE BEST WHAT YOU DESERVE!!!!ALL THE BEST!!!!
2007-02-21 05:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it to be possible and find it incredibly romantic though rare. But that doesn't mean you should rush into marriage. Being your first love doesn't make it the strongest or best love you are likely to experience. You must be patient and mature enough to make such a serious decision. Marriage is not all about love. It's about many other commitments and obligations, some of them extremely serious and some mundane, that require a whole personality to cope with them. And that whole personality unfortunately does not come early in life for anyone. That's why so many couples today that marry at a tender age don't make it. When you're with the one you love, that's the number one priority. Marriage can wait and love must take the time to be tested. All things in due time.
2007-02-21 04:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no definate science to tell you the truth here but i tend to think we all hope things work out the very first time around.As long as the two of you love each other enough to fight against any temptation that may drive you apart,then you will get married.Its about give and take,accomodating each other is the price which needs to be paid to ensure success.I hope you will get married and have kids who will make you so proud even more.
All the best
2007-02-21 04:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by BMJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's possible to marry your first love. but to be truthful with you, in a few years when you're in high school you'll look back on him and say what was I thinking this one treats me so much better I'm more connected with him. there will be a few guys in your life, and thats a need because you have to experiance a little bit of every type of guy. maybe you'll come back to this one but i dont think you'll stick it all the way through. Even if you were to marry your 1st sweet heart, it almost always doesnt work out for the long term marriage.
sorry that proabably isnt what you wanted to hear but its true.
good luck hun
2007-02-21 04:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Denise6433 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no-one could really give you a real answer for that. but in my opinion yes of course you can marry but theres no garentee it will work out. don't get me wrong you may last but i can't tell you that personally can i. i was with my b/f for a year and a half, we were discussing about getting a house and maybe having a family and he split up with me just after christmas so there you go. i say hes the one for me but he obviously doesn't think the same as he used to.
but just take it slowly, see what time brings, good luck!
2007-02-21 04:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by largeinit343 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure dear there are lots of people who marry their first love.
Just take it nice and slow and things will work out just don't get in a big hurry.
2007-02-21 05:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Tom Sawyer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may or may not work. It doesn't matter weather it's first love or second or whatever, it's the feeling the two have for each other that count.
2007-02-21 04:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Master M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure people do. My grandparents were high school sweethearts. They had 50th anniversary like 10 years ago xD
2007-02-21 04:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by x_ampz_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course its possible! but i think the number on your list of gf's/bf's is irrelevant... if you love each other eough to want to spend the rest of your lives together i don't think it matters what number you are...
2007-02-21 04:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by StockRdHappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋