She was the girl of my dreams. We were together a while back when we were in high school. We were together for 2 years. I still love her with all my heart. It has been 3 years since we've broken up and I haven't been in another serious relationship since. She broke up with me because her sister wasn't too fond of me. Her sister practically hated me. Her explanation was that she was making the people around her unhappy because she was always with me. It was a real bad break up. At the time I was also immature and made some mistakes. I didn't know how to react because i loved her deeply. Recently, sadly her sister passed away and I have tried to be there for her. All she does is ignore me, but will talk to my close friends about me and profess her love for me. This really frustrates me, she was my first love and I really want to make things better between us. I try to contact her but she ignores me. I've tried numerous times to see her but she avoids me at all costs. What do I do?
2007-02-20 20:25:37 · 7 answers · asked by ripped 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she was looking for an excuse to break up with you and tagged it on her sister.
Move. On.
2007-02-20 20:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by goiowa6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard because you say that she is telling people that she loves you.
If she does love you then she is probably scared about getting back into a relationship with you because of everything that has gone before and she probably thinks that because it went wrong the first time that it is not going to go right now.
The other thing is that because her sister just died she doesnt want to get into a relationship because maybe she thinks that hse is too emotional right now, or that she doesnt deserve to be happy. This is a common response.
I think the main factor may be though that because her sister didnt like you she would feel that she is going behind her sisters back to be with you and that she should have respect for her views now that has died. Sounds silly but its probably the case.
I would suggest just being for her as a friend. Dont pressurise her at all as this will drive you apart and just tell her that she has all the time in the world and that whatever she decides you will be there for her.
You have to be gentle with her and dont bombard her too much.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-21 04:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try one last time. Write her a little or something where she can hear you out without you there. Tell her how you really feel, and that this is the last time you will try to get her back. Tell her you're sick of the games and not knowing whether or not you guys will be again, and you're ready to move on if she won't give it a chance. Either she will realize this is her last chance to make something of your relationship and give it another chance... or she wont and you guys are probably through. If this happens, accept it and move on. It's been three years! You'll find someone else and you'll be happy again... and you need to accept that sooner than latter because our lives are not long enough to dwell on the impossible.
2007-02-21 04:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Wildernessguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First loves are hard to let go... but I think at this time, especially due to the emotional distress of her losing her sister, it is best for you to move on. Be there as a friend, but don't pressure her into a relationship. She will always have a part of your heart, thats the magic of your high school sweetheart. Part of me is still in love with my high school sweat heart even though he is married, and I'm in an extremely happy, healthy relationship. Good luck!
2007-02-21 04:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by megs1bq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs time and perhaps it's better if u're not together. Ur presence would remind her of her sister, and her hatred for you. She may misinterprete what she's feeling for u right now. She may hate u coz er sista hated you. only time would be able to save ur relationship. deep inside er she loves u but give er time and all the best
2007-02-21 04:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now how old are you and your heart? first step your age, second step your work, third step your family, fourth step her family, fifth step her feel for you.sorry that I want to know your information before I help you.
2007-02-21 04:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by lucky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if shes saying to other ppl that she still has feelings for u then keep trying to contact her, keep trying, but then again maybe shes playing u!
2007-02-21 04:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋