Should I take her back?

Question

My gf broke up with me about a week ago because I kind of neglected her. She told me that I made her feel like crap and that I didnt show her that I loved her. I guess I can see to some extent where I went wrong, I couldve put in more effort, but I dont think I did something so horrible that she had to break up with me. I think she acted too rashly and I'm hesitant to take her back. She called me yesterday telling me that she wants to talk and try to work things out because she loves me and whatnot. Im just really hurt that she broke up with me, dont know if i should bother anymore, she might just do the same again.

Answer 1

Girls do that. I threaten my husband all the time that I don't want to be with him anymore and everyone tells me it's going to come back to me one of these days. She just thinks that because she broke up with you, NOW you will notice her. It's an attention thing, it's not serious. She wasn't beaking up with you because she really wanted to. Just to get your attention. Honest!! She still loves you, and if you love her, take her back. Don't do something that you will regret in the future. It's just games pretty much. Females play them! :)

Answer 2

Hello! Derek s.
For a start no one can blame another person for making them feel like as you put it crap.
The individual chose to feel that way,the same when a person says "you made me so angry",No you made yourself angry.
From what you say it does not appear that you two have a very good rapor which is important in any relationship.
People live in unrealistic expectation if they are not treated the way they think they ought to be treated or loved the way they feel they ought to be loved they get upset, when in reality the partner may not have it to give.
I think you are right to be cautious in taking her back because one cannot live in a stable relationship if a partner is constantly breaking up when things do not go their way it will just be a road to misery for you.
Four parts to love respect, emotion, sex, thought.
If you knock out the first and last and all you have left are the emotion and sex that is not love.
As human beings we each have 500 problems when we get into a relationship add another 500 problems so instead of 500 you now have a thousand and what makes it worse is if the partner cannot solve their own and lean their weight on you, both will fall!
In situations like this it is better to be alone, work through the pain, deal with it, put it behind you then after a time of healing maybe then look at a new relationship and learn from the mistakes of the past.
Girls can be wonderful friends but once one brings the emotional sexual behaviour into the relationship the friendship is destroyed.
So try not to jump out of the frying pan into the fire!

Take care!

Answer 3

well, just wait b4 u do anything! think about it: how heartbroken r u? think if u took her back-would u neglect her? if u r heartbroken and cant bear it then thats easy DONT DO IT, but if u can do it but ur neglecting her than dont, women r precious and need attention, u have to be able to love her and she'll lov u back! if u cant love her jsut tell her that u cant love anyone right now and make up a stupid reason and jsut tell her u need to sort things out and she can move on because u need to ust stop and think!

Answer 4

You said that you understood why she broke up with you, and possibly you might have had something to do with that. So if you're willing to change your behaviour, then she won't have a reason to break up with you again, will she.

Answer 5

Doesn't sound like you bothered in the first place or she wouldn't have broken up with you. If I were her--- I'd move on.

Answer 6

Well she did it with out thinking. If your hurt tell her that and the next time she thinks about leaving you she should talk to you about it first and their is no third chance with you.

Answer 7

I say wait a while before jumping back in.