Should I fight or let go?

Question

Me and my bf are seeing each other for 7 yrs. He already introduced my to his family and relatives which is same with mine. We argue most of the time but we see to it that we dont go to sleep with unresolved cases and fix what we argued about.As one of my bad trait, I always provoke him for a break up everytime I'm annoyed which he always disagrees and says that break up is not a solution for our problem.Im a very paranoid and jealous gf not calling or texting me is a big thing, i also open his emails, messenger and even read messages his cellphone.For 7 yrs privacy is not an issue with us but we always end up fighting when I read messages that were suspicious. After a big fight I decided to broke up with him which he AGREED!I was really shocked! After 4 months of not seeing each other I miss him and realized that I LOVE HIM and decided to win him back.But he refused to accept me saying that he's not yet ready to commit.He said he's still thinking and only time will tell about our fate

He offered me friendship and said that his house, things, family are still "open" and nothing will change except that we dont have commitment. We're still close but it hurts me alot when he's out dating or when he doesnt reply or return my calls....My mind tells me that I should not waste my time on a man that doesnt want me, but my heart says that I should fight for our love....I still want him back....What will I do??? Please help!

I know that its my fault and Im screwed big time! But please help me win back his heart.....What will I do....please help!

Answer 1

WOW! No wonder this guy agreed to break up with you. You are selfish, childish and jealous.
You have an ENORMOUS amount of apologizing to do. Most men would NEVER put up with a woman who is so suspicious as to open a man's mail, and whatever else you might have done to invade his privacy.
He is probably thinking how lucky he is now that he can have some privacy in his life.
If you really want him back, then you should be promising this guy that you will never act childish and jealous anymore. If you can't convince him of this, you will lose him FOREVER.
I am very sorry for how bad this may sound, but according to what you wrote, no man would ever put up with what you put him through. You really messed up this relationship.

Answer 2

Ok, hon, you just give him his space, and pray that he comes back to you. And when he does, do whatever you must to make sure that you trust him always, unless he gives you a positive reason not to. I understand how you feel. I get the same way sometimes, with my fiance, but I will tell you this, unless i have absolutely positively good reason to be suspicious - I let it go and give him the benefit of the doubt. And to do this, I keep telling myself how much I love him, how much he means to me, and I think about how I would feel if I lost him for good....Then I suddenly get a new appreciation for him and suddenly my concerns seem so trivial.

Answer 3

if i had a partenr like u i would dump this partner long time ago - reading someone else's male or emale or text message is a big NO. hasn't your mommy tought u that? u have extremely bad manners. i bet u won't be able to find another sucker for a very long time

Answer 4

find another and don't be paranoid and jealous when you have bf...