My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 months. He is a great guy,and when we are together he treats me great. I love being with him. Sometimes I think he takes me for granted because I am too nice. He doesn't call me as much as he did in the beginning and we hang out a lot less. I let him get away with a lot of the little things. If he doesn't call me, I'll always give in and call and I know I shouldn't. What can I do to make him realize what a great woman he has. I just want him to put more effort into the relationship. p.s. I've already talked to him, and it worked for a lil bit. I think he needs to be shown this time. thanx in advance
2007-02-20 18:19:19 · 13 answers · asked by V Isabella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow..this sounds so familiar. I was in a similar situation and the only thing that worked was to stop calling him and let him do the work for awhile and if he doesnt then you know it's not meant to last. If he does maybe he's just been busy with school/work,friend whatever. But dont keep letting him put you on the backburner if your important he'll come to his senses and realize it. Unfortunately some men don't realize what they have until it's gone and you're already with someone else you care about. If he is one of these guys just be glad you are rid of him and moved on to something better! Good Luck! You sound like a great person and just remember you deserve better than this!
2007-02-20 18:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask yourself what should I be appreciated for, what am I doing above and beyond in our relationship that deserves special attention. If he did the same thing would you appreciate and tell him how grateful you are for it..... are you sure? Or is it more than appreciation that your looking for, do you miss being pursued, the extra attention you get when it's a "new" relationship. Are you dating a guy that has been with many women, and is a 9 or 10. Does he always get what he wants... Could be not appreciate because if you leave he can just get another. Is there a real bond in between you and him, is it deeper than sex and money, or social status. If you love a persons mind, personality or character that can be truly be appreciated.... I'm rambling... to the question::: Good Luck!
2007-02-20 18:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by shadycaliber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The great thing about being appreciated is that true appreciation isn't asked for or forced out of anybody. It just is. I'm sorry to say this, but there may not be a way to MAKE him appreciate you. But since this doesn't answer your question the way you want it to, I'll tell you the closest thing you can do toward your goal.
Break up with him. People who don't appreciate their significant others rarely realize what they have until it's GONE.
2007-02-20 18:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should flat out tell him that he shows you appreciation or you're going to move on and find someone else. Its only been 2 months and if he's already not showing you appreciation I can't even begin to imagine whats going to happen later on down the road.
2007-02-20 18:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by oo_m_i_c_h_e_l_l_e_oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just back off completely. Stop doing all the things he expects you to do. Once he realises what he's missing, he'll come to appreciate you more. Guys want what they can't have. Hold back, stop the calls and whatever else you usually do for him. He'll come back soon enough and he'll actually notice what you're doing for him and be a lot more grateful.
2007-02-20 18:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there to reassure him how much you love him, take him for a nice walk on the beach or in the park and fly a kite and plan a nice romantic lunch at the park and a nice romantic dinner on the beach and cook a dinner for him at your house, and make it really romantic, and he will really appreciate the effort you put into a romantic evening for him. Just set aside some time in the day where you two can enjoy your company, go rollerblading, play volleyball, fly a kite, a romantic walk on the beach, a romantic dinner, a romantic lunch in the park, it really does not take money or anything expensive to show your loved one you love them, it is the thought that counts.
2016-03-15 22:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, thats so wierd because im in the EXACT SAME SITUATION! Ive been with my bf for 4 months and im experiencing the same problems. He doesnt call or text me as much as he used to. I dont even think he misses me much wen we aren't together. We love each other but he battles to show it! I feel like im chasing him and calling him 2 much when i am told to sit back and let him chase me. I dont see it happening! I put in all the effort into the relationship, im not demanding but i make all the plans.... its very very frustrating! I know hes busy but it honestly takes 2mins to send a small sweet text once in a while... dont think im asking for much! please feel free to email me if you wanna talk to somemore because i am in the exact same position as you and im pretty stuck! Maybe we can work this out... alexahoffmann123@yahoo.com
2007-02-20 18:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Lex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be "high maintenance" ....that's a turn-off.
Don't always call to check on what he's doing (if you do) and where he's been.
Have some faith. He has a life too...let him live it.....after all, you're not married.
2007-02-20 18:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultimatim tell him he needs to do his part and show appreciation or else you will find someone who does aprreciate you for who you are
2007-02-20 18:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea im like in de exact same situation as well..
its hard rite...sumtimes backing off is hard..somehow we juz think of de guy while we dun think they even bother..
its good to talk..guess we're on the same boat...!
2007-02-20 19:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋