why do i feel like this?

Question

i am 22 and am working on a degree and had a bf which is now my ex and broke up with him-we attend the same school.after the whole break up i started to feel so self conscious as though i was not pretty enough or had a nice body or that i needed to lose weight eventhough i am 5ft 6in and 120 lbs.now i feel even more miserable because of the break up and try to focus on school and such yet in my ex's eyes i dont think that i am pretty enough and i am putting myself down. my ex and i are on really good terms actually since we broke up=last week's Friday-yet i feel all awkward around him and such and know that he has moved on with his life or so it seems and i have not-we dated for 19 months and he was the first guy that i fell in love with.i thought that maybe next semester i should transfer to another university since i can start all clean and no one knows me yet my ex does not likethe idea of me going away.i broke up with my ex yet i want us to get back together and know that we wont.

in the past i have always gotten hurt and now i hurt him and i am also hurting. he is actually doing well for a guy who was dumped and what scares me is that in no time he will find someone else to date.i have enough or more than enough on my plate as we speak and i could not see him with another girl because i would be hurting even more. and i broke up with him because i listened to my close friends' advice yet their relationships are going shitty as well!any suggestiong?

Answer 1

Well if you like him so much then why don't you get back wtth him? If you don't think you can then be friends with him. I know you can't stand the thought of him with another girl but heck you dumped him. If you really care for someone then you should be happy for that person if that person is happy right? If you don't then you're being selfish. So try to talk to him how you feel and why you left him. See if you have any feelings for him again to get back or move on but starting a new school just for a guy is little too much. What happens when you meet another guy again? Move again and again if things don't work out? You're 5'6 and 120 is hot to me! So don't worry so much about being in love and all. You're still waaaay young to meet the right guy if this doesn't work out. It's a good thing that you have a guy friend there that you can be friends with if you needed. So be strong and look forward to your education and the feelings will eventually wear off. Trusts me. I've been heartbroken many many times but hurt feelings slowly went away.

P.S. try asking this question again tomorrow or when it's a bit earlier so more people will answer. Take care. Trust me love heals all wounds. And by golly you're only 22 and probably really hot! Oh and try to shorten your question a bit cuz most people don't like to read long question.

Answer 2

personally i think that you should move on, you broke it off and whats so bad about it is you let your friends have a part in it, now your miserable just like they wanted you to be. you feel like you've made a mistake so you are coming down hard on yourself for it. another thing is your boyfriend has moved on and that has an effect on you as well...see sometimes when we break it off with someone we expect for them to act a certain way after the break up...in other words we are looking for some kind of reaction from them and when we don't get it...it's a big let down and thats what i think kind of happened you expected him to act a certain way after the break up and he didn't...thats why you feel so awkward around him...and so self conscious....well you learn from your mistakes and if you ask me i don't think you should transfer to another university....i think you should stay where your at and learn from your mistakes...leaving is just showing a sign of weakness...we can't always run from our problems staying there dealing with it is what's gonna make you stronger and wiser....next time you'll know when and when not to take advice from others especially when their having problems themselves....like the saying goes misery loves company....chalk it up.... if your ex is happy then thats good...now it's time for you to work on yourself so you can be happy too and i'm not talking about your outter appearance but from what's within.